To start the VNC server from CLI, issue
Code:
sh /usr/local/bin/sharex11vnc
But check if it's running allready before you do that by issuning a
Code:
sudo netstat -taunp | grep vnc
If it is, stop it first
Did you try tunneling through instead of connecting straight to it? I too had some problems with direct connections from Windows, but never had them when tunneling through an SSH connection (it's because windows has an other way of handeling VNC).
Also, are you sure you set autologin and the x11share script to be run at login?