Originally Posted by Nexxo
OK, let me get this straight. She dumps you. When you try to talk to her, she blocks your number so you can't text or call her. She blocks you on Facebook. It's pretty much over, no?
So you follow her home from the gym and visit her in her apartment, alone. Just to prove that you were there, you leave evidence of your presence.
You are lucky that all you got was an accusation of trespass. She could have claimed you tried to rape her, and her friend would probably have backed her up. How would a sex offence record look on your CV?
STAY CLEAR OF HER. Really, are you self-destructive? Are you autistic? Don't ever try to contact her again. Don't ever be seen anywhere near her again. Don't ever leave anything for her again. Change your gym. Don't go to court; just pay the fine and make this thing go away as soon as possible and stay out of her life, and keep her out of yours.
It was more of an "on off relationship" that turned into an "I like you a lot, but I can't do this anymore" for her. What made it go on and off was her getting re-mad about my "girlfriends" that she would randomly see here and there. We were still hanging out when she would get mad but it would be more of a sit next to each other while she waits to hear what she wants to hear. She was still talking to me via FaceBook, cell phone etc. But still kept getting mad. Now she blocked everything, and I stopped trying to talk to her.
I see her at the gym and of course it gets me thinking. And as in I see her, I mean throughout the course of a month. I have not tried to contact her at all at this point. So after many weeks of not talking I decide to drive to her apartment after I am done with the gym and errands for the day. I didn't follow her, I just know where she lives because I used to hang out with her there. It was at least 3, 4 hours since I saw her that morning. And It is a big college apartment complex, there are people everywhere walking to and from class.
It has been 3 weeks and then I get this letter I am being charged with trespassing. That is why I am confused... The police didn't come over that day, or that week, or anytime close of me even remembering talking to her.
I might be a bit self-destructive but I am not going to take a fine and have it on my record for no reason. If that is the case, every time I pass her in between class changes I am filing stalking... it is basically the same difference.
Just to be clear, my thinking was that she was on-off before, it has been over a month since I looked at the girl, let alone talk to her and she didn't seem discouraged by my presence at the gym. I felt that things might have cooled down and I could at least talk to her. I didn't ask her to get back together, just genuinely seeing how she was doing.
I was never told to stay away in the past, believe me I don't mess around with crazy women (well, once they get police crazy), and I am staying away now, just as I have been since she wrote the letter. I just don't like how she says stay ok, I say ok I guess it is over, then weeks later I get this charge.
And I obtained legal council today, I was just looking for some inputs.