Considering seeing an escort. Right or Wrong, or neither Thoughts?

Mate nothing wrong with it, get a good one, have fun (some can be far too clinical no touching.... don't look at me, no kissing etc etc...) but please remember to bag up

 

Its unlikely that any future partner will be impressed if you tell them.

Nor will most other people.

So if you do be prepared to live with that side of things.

 

I disagree it's not something you do to impress, its personal choice. I'm sure there are things everyone has done that won't impress. But its life, you live, you make choices, you die. You embrace what you can while you can

 

You make your own choice, and you're not going to be a 'MAD' man because of that. I just want you to remember one thing, if someday you find a girl friend. She will not be a skilled prostitute, but a Woman. Do not confuse normal sexual relations with that thing.

 

I would say 'think about the consequences of your actions'. My standing is you want a sexual encounter, but at what kind of cost? The mental side seems to be toying with you already. I am going to be 29 in January and am still a virgin. I intend to stay that way for my wife, no matter how long that may take. I want to say to my wife that she is the first, but I can not condemn them for possibly messing around or whatever either (human behaviors are fickle). But my standing is firm on not messing around till marriage. Call me old fashioned, I dont give a ****.

 

Nah - I don't think everybody shares my values. My concern is that he is so unsure of this that he gives of faint hints in his opening post. It is not about right or wrong here - it is about weather he should do it or not but he mentioned that he never done a one night stand or anything in that direction because of moral values. He is answering himself here - because getting a escort is roughly the same from his moral perspective.

.... then again sometimes you have to learn to let go and not worry too much on what other people have to say. This will not effect anybody but yourself, to a extend.

What I was trying to say - just be careful that you do not get addicted to payed sex and all the attention that comes with it, be safe and maybe figure the true reason how come it is so hard to get a girlfriend/sex etc.

 

there used be a time when your dad used to take you to the local brothel for your first shag, what ever happened, lol

 

If seeing an escort is morally the same as having a one night stand, then just go to a club, lower your standards for one night, and give some girl your virginity. That is, if you're worried about the stigma attached to visiting prostitutes.

 

The best thing come to those who wait.
When it come to good (mutually satisfying) sex/lovemaking, then you only get what you give. An escort/hooker will not allow herself to become emotionally attached as it's bad for business. Even the ones that are good at acting cannot create the chemical and emotional bond that you need to make it more than fun or a 'it was OK' moment.

The fun bit is also best left to later in the relationship when you have discovered each other and know each others limits and fetishes (don't deny it, we all have at least one little one) really well.

I'm no expert but I feel it's the best advice I can give you.

OH! And remember, the nice ones are hard to find without trying. Nothing so good should come so easy or you would probably just take it for granted.

Keep at it.

 

I think there's nothing wrong with using that kind of service, but i wouldn't do it.

At the age of 24 without ever having a proper girlfriend, what you need is one of those, not *****. Don't get me wrong, it's nice to get some but it really won't make much of a difference in your life. It won't make you happy and it definitely will not improve your self esteem. However you seem to be worried about what other people will think about you afterwards, so it could effect you for the worse. Not worth the effort i'd say.

 

that's what I was thinking.. he might fall head over heels for the hooker and then it all goes downhill from there- gifts and then trying to make a hoe into a housewife

then all his friends will call him the broke t.j. hooker.. I've never paid a prostitute.. did pay a few strippers but it was with friends

had friends knew though early on who got herpes, so that cured me of sleeping around before it even started.. best is focus on yourself, get in shape

work isn't everything.. there's a lot of young people who work hard and have no time for a social life- I think this is the wrong way to go personally.. college is a awesome time to meet people you wouldn't otherwise.. getting in shape will make you more attractive too- just have a good set of songs that will keep you roid raged for about an hour and hit the gym hard

drinking isn't so bad.. you'll meet a lot of girls at clubs too- at 24 you should definitely be in the clubs if your single.. bring your buds or have a wingman.. you might not hook up with anyone in the club but usually it ends up getting you into a bigger network of friends you wouldn't otherwise

just remember there are a lot of girls out there who would love to meet a nice guy.. but not a guy who looks like they just rolled out of a basement.. take the time to work on 'de social skills- you can do it!' and your body (remember the roid rage music in the gym, it'll keep you motivated the first few days when your lookin like willis.. something like public enemy greatest misses)

you get to banging hookers anyway and you might be that white guy who gets caught with the kiddie porn in a year with a hooker who has your money

 

Nicely put

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Well I haven't got laid until now because of the following, I have mild Aspergers (for those in the know the Austism Spectrum I would place myself closer to aspergers than atypical (if you put them as precise points on a line) but not all the way there). Throughout childhood parents didnt know and therefore I was just a different kid, had very few friends etc. Teenage years spent in depression/social isolation (became excellent at hiding my feelings or lack of feelings) became full blown at uni ending with me not completing university as I never developed an educational work ethic + the depression. Found out at 20 I had AS.

So at 22 only just realised who I was and started to discover feelings again (spent most of my youth having no idea what feelings I felt meant (when I felt some) and still an issue sometimes) at that point had first girlfriend who dropped me like a hat very quickly even though she liked me (not enough tho(tells you she liked you enough that she would have slept with you but that it wouldn't work long term, sort of like kicking you in the balls when your down)) she immediately dated my boss at that time making work awkward, who was 36 (she was 20) (I am glad it went no further with her but hurt like a bitch as I expected more and first time for some emotions) leading to me quitting and travelling round the world for 6 months solo (As if I had friends to do that with). No relationships since. Still going in and out of depression in cycles of good months and bad. Hence not ready for real relationship atm. Also have an addictived personality from AS's focus, hence no alcohol,drug, ciggs etc consumption.

Thing is I don't think seeing an escort in itself is immoral. Its a consenting act between two adults, if society hasnt moved on to accept that then it needs too. Seeing an escort on drugs or is forced etc yeah thats immoral so if you need to do your home work and choose wisely.

Currently though I have put it on hold for a bit and will give it a month or so to mull it over as to whether it is the right thing or not.

Just answering the why here I suppose. But if I can't explain it on a forum how could I in reallife. Although I have no problem explaining my AS or depression in real life, well except the most recent year or so. Just wanting to show I wasn't thinking of this lighly because my life had sucked for little bit.

Although definitely not looking for sympanthy per say, just explaining as people can't make accurate advice without knowledge of me.

 

Don't really want to meet the girls who want to meet guys in clubs, the ones in bars possibly but club girls not really. They must know only cocks(best description I have for that type of over confident guy) hit on them in clubs and therefore dontwant anything to do with them. I have a few male friends but not wingman guys. Clubs suck for talking anyway and as I suck at small talk (maybe a little strong but more than a couple scentences and I'm out unless we are in a quieter enviroment where with flowing conversation I could go on forever with good company) and I dislike shouting at people I want to talk too. My addictive/focused personality wouldn't work well with alcohol or drugs etc, cant imagine what would have happened if when I had depression I drank but I'm sure not good things hence why I have never taken them (well apart for a couple drinks mid teens).

This escort thing has got me back to the gym recently but not as much as I need too. Need to get addicted too it again (well mildly so).

 

lol, start smoking, with the ban (UK) you meet more people outside and its quiet to talk, plus after two weeks you won't notice there smokers breath.

JK!

 

Just out of interest - regarding AS - have you tried changing your diet?

lactose, glutin and some artificial colourings/preservatives can have an effect.

not wanting to sound hippy but it works for some people

 

Go to Amsterdam the red light district, You wont have to take her out for dinner etc, Probably work out cheaper.

You can have a holiday at the same lol

And you will only get what you paid for, No nasty surprises afterwards.

Never went that route myself but I know someone who did.

 

Is there any evidence that this does anything and if so what does it do? Why would I want to be less of who I am? Would rather attempt to embrace and learn to accept me rather than change me. Thing is if you spoke to me you would probably find it difficult to guess unless you knew me well. Although if you spoke to the me of 10 years it would stand out like a saw thumb.

 

personal experience....

here is some info

http://www.autismweb.com/diet.htm

 

That seems to be talking about the effect of people especially children with higher levels of autism than I do. Also I don't regard what I have as a disability that needs to be cured but rather a difference that I have.