Hardly anonymous if your stalker suddenly gets a huge amount of harassing correspondence which the police could in theory track to the anonymous proxy, should it go that far. A strongly worded statement telling him to butt out and **** off, without threats, following by facebook privacy options (block him and make it so she can only be searched out by ppl who know her email, turn off "friends of friends" in case it befriends someone she has as a friend, etc) and contact your phone company really is the best way to go.
Just ignore the guy and do nothing else unless he starts turning up at her house. Don't stoop to that level, remember don't stoop to their level and play their game. They'll beat you at it, everytime. /thread
This thread is pointless... everyone says ignore and block.. do it and move on already. Any other action would just entice him further, especially if you tell him to bugger off or threaten him, or otherwise make known to him that he's getting to you.
I don't think it is quite as simple as that. Before I was seeing my girlfriend (over 5 years ago now, oh god lol) there was a guy who stalked her. At one time he tried to get into her garden and all sorts. They tried to ignore him, and it did not work. You need to properly confront him about it and tell him it is just not cricket. Only after they called the police (obviously not emergency line) and her brothers, who are much older and had long since moved out by then had told him politely but very clearly to f off did he get the message. The odd thing was that at the time I didn't know it was going on as I didn't really know her then, but I did know him and so did my mates. We had no idea about it, but as soon as we did you can imagine he was no longer respected. He is a bit of a freak still and if I ever see him in town or out and about he will try to talk to me etc. This may not be the same type of stalker you are dealing with. But ignoring him did not work, and even though he did stop after getting warned off, he still hasn't really given up on her. No stalking, but occasionally asks people "How are <girlfriends name> and matt doing?"
Find the guy, walk up to him, introduce yourself and kindly ask him to stop. No insults, no shouting, no threats. Once it 'gets real' for these cowards, they tend to stop. If he continues, contact the police. This worked for me when my (now ex-) girlfriend was getting harassed by some guy from her old college.
If its that bad, get a restraining order ffs. Then if he breaks it he'll kindly find himself with a large ass fine, if that doesn't stop him he'll see a professional about it. If that doesn't stop him he'll find himself behind bars. It really is THAT simple.
You could just roll proactive and communicate back but be horrendously, unimaginably obscene and abusive. I've used it to get rid of wannabe trolls on Warcraft before - just start making up generic psychopathic baloney about torture and child molestation. If you hit gold, he'll be a Daily Mail reader, and it'll strike a nerve. IRL trolling basically. The only potential downside is that there's an outside possibility they'll be too convinced and report you to the police, or something. I'm not sure what you could do in that situation. edit - a realistic, useful suggestion is this:
He's an idiot. If you argue with idiots they will drag you down to their level and beat you with experiance, then, you will be left feeling dazed and bewildered. Just be nice to him and try to understand it from his point of view and why he's doing this.
Okay, this is it. He keeps annoying her. I am waiting for her to call me back, so I can get his number and block him from texting her. She has repeadetly told him that she HAS got a boyfriend, and she is NOT interested in being "****-buddies".. (This got me quite mad you just don't talk to girls like that). If this doesn't work and he still keeps annoying her, I'll probably employ the "Talk to him nicely and ask him to stop". There is no sense in using violence and I am by no means gonna drag myself down to his level. I have absolutly no f-king clue, but if he needs company and love he has a very wierd way of showing it.
Yeah, name, adress, phone number. Everything I could possibly want to know about him. But I am not gonna stoop to the "fist-in-face" approach. If he keeps annoying her like this even after I get his number blocked the next step will be to contact the police. He is probably totally harmless, but I don't wan't to take the chance.
Satisfying though you know it would be... Some people just won't back down, depends how this confrontation goes really. Good luck Is that correct grammar? I thought so, but re-reading, it sounds sort of like Yoda.
Oh yes, to sink my 3 foot aluminum bat in his balls? Very satisfying on a theoretical level, but hardly practical. The grammar sounds okay. But what do I know, I'm danish.
Picarro, i have no answers to this one, i'm just dropping by to wish you good luck with this, and kudos to your application of common sense.
Thanks My GF is gonna call her phone provider (3) today about the possibility of blocking his number. I hope she can do it without too much hassle. If she doesn't get his number blocked or if he keeps annoying her, I'll call him and tell him to stop. Though I kinda fear having to call him since I am not the best at keeping my temper in check, especially if he pulls some smart-ass move. If I end up calling him, I am not gonna threaten him in any way, and I'll speak nicely but firmly to him. If he stills keeps being an ass after this, It'l end up at the police but I really don't want it to go that far.
