Other Any help on neighbour relations!?

Discussion in 'General' started by mrbungle, 21 Nov 2013.

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What would you do?

  1. Pay up in full for the dish to be moved

    9 vote(s)
    16.7%
  2. Move the dish myself

    5 vote(s)
    9.3%
  3. Tell neighbour to do one

    21 vote(s)
    38.9%
  4. Eat a cheesecake

    19 vote(s)
    35.2%
  1. Pete J

    Pete J Employed scum

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    An extension is a permanent structure though and needs different consideration. I still stand by my belief that the OP has a moral obligation to compensate his neighbours completely for their fortnight's worth of missed TV.
     
  2. dancingbear84

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    Common sense seems to have taken a running jump in this thread. Just have a proper conversation with them, all together, and see what happens. I'm sure it could all be sorted out reasonably and amicably.
    I'll find the poll when I'm at a PC and not my phone.

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  3. mrlongbeard

    mrlongbeard Multimodder

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    Well from the poll so far 14 of you are going to have the time needed to do the roof extended and as a result your roofers bill is going up...


    ......coz I am nicking all of the scaffolding planks in the night, just to be extra neighbourly..
     
  4. adam_bagpuss

    adam_bagpuss Have you tried turning it off/on ?

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    im sorry if my comments seem harsh or selfish but the OP isnt at fault at all.

    Its a temporary thing that will not be an issue when the roof is finished. If my builders knocked the dish then of course i would offer to sort it out. I would not pay out because someone is inconvenienced for a couple of weeks while work is being done.

    I may have told them im getting the work done in advance but then again i doubt i would have known that it would effect the signal.

    I also dispute what people have assumed about me and others that said we would pay be the first to complain when service is down for phone or broadband and demand money back. These things happen, they get them fixed and life goes on. It part of the service, they didnt say well our service went down so here is part of the repair bill.
     
  5. Shirty

    Shirty W*nker! Super Moderator

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    None of the above.

    The neigbour...

    :naughty:

    We clearly don't suffer fools gladly. Ask me nicely and I'll take the shirt off my back. Demand my assistance and I'll burn you to the ground, apparently.

    Also, geek forums probably don't represent the general demographic particularly well - there'll be a lot of sociopaths on here.

    Ditto ;)
     
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  6. Guinevere

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    Well I'm really disappointed and a little surprised that the majority opinion of responders to this thread is that you should go and tell your neighbour to 'do one'. How wonderfully neighbourly you all are.

    You have (allegedly) knocked out their television signal and there's arguing here over whether you have a legal responsibility to resolve the issue? Sod the legalities, sod their attitude. What's the right thing to do?

    Pay for it to be relocated. It's not your neighbours fault their signal is blocked. It's not your neighbours fault you've over stretched your budget so much that paying the money is a bit of an issue.

    Maybe they had a bit of an attitude on, but life doesn't have to be one long playground "he said - she said" tit for tat.

    Be neighbourly. Be fair. Be nice. And if it comes to it and they still have an attitude, be a better person than they are.
     
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  7. Williz

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    Honestly mate it sounds like they just want some money from you, I personally wouldn't pay anything.
     
  8. law99

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    There is a lot of fuss here about **** all. I'd just laugh, apologise and say I'm not paying for it to be moved.

    "I feel for you, but I can't afford it. Sorry"

    Then if it is pushed I'd say: "I'm really sorry, that is the end of the conversation. I can't afford it. I'm having my roof done. I used a loan. We're hard up... bad times. Sorry. No."

    What are they going to do? Nothing, that is what.Just watch normal tv and deal with it. Read a book for God's sake. It isn't a big deal.
     
  9. kelvinb

    kelvinb BF3 Username - D0rmarth

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    Respect thy neighbours and Karma is a B****. Be careful you will reap what you sow
     
  10. law99

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    Yeah... if you are a **** to them. Correct. But you aren't. You have no money and you can't do anything.

    Also, WTF, Karma is bull ****... of course if you are horrible to people they may be back, but if you are always polite and jolly you'll be fine - just don't expect any similar favours(which I wouldn't anyway and I'd never have made the request, because I can amuse my self with other things and would only have made inquiries as to how long the scaffolding was up for if I was that bothered about TV).

    If, however, you are the sort of emotional retard that explodes at the slightest mention of any sort of negative effect on your life, then you'll be the one, the "retard" if you will, that gets all wound up, shouty and bringing everyone's life down and has to "reap what they'll sow".
     
  11. GeorgeStorm

    GeorgeStorm Aggressive PC Builder

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    Seems to be a bit of guilt being thrown around, it's quite funny really.

    Due to money being an issue, next time you talk to them just say that and ask if there's something else you could do to try to resolve the issue/offer to refund them for two weeks worth of sky at a later date.

    Moving the dish is stupid since once the work is done you'd have to move it back
     
  12. mrbungle

    mrbungle Undercooked chicken giver

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    Having reviewed the situation the problem is their dish is looking at a line of sight that must clip the front of our house by about a foot, their dish is also pretty low down which means any work being done to the front of the house not even the roof would knock the signal out.

    Might put some flower boxes up next spring :)


    Bloke was very rude again this morning to my Mrs, they have taken the stance to be all or nothing which of course means it has become a bit of a stand off.

    If they had a different approach I am sure they would have telly right now.
     
  13. Modsbywoz

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    Buy them a book to read.... ohhh the horror.
     
  14. kelvinb

    kelvinb BF3 Username - D0rmarth

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    Law99 being self righteous is not going to really end in a great place.

    Personally I would invite the guy for a beer sit down and talk through the issue as there are a lot of factors we don't event know here for example did you tell him this work was going to interfere with his sky prior to event.

    there is no problem that cant be worked out if you discuss the issue in a neutral location buy the guy a beer and see if you cant work it out. If the guy reacts in a negative way then you can walk away knowing you have attempted to resolve the issue.

    We are all part of a community and should forgive ingresses and try to work together to resolve issues.
     
  15. GeorgeStorm

    GeorgeStorm Aggressive PC Builder

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    So they might not even get full signal normally due to your house?

    If they're being like that then just simply say you can't afford it, sorry.
     
  16. law99

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    You don't have to share a beer with a person to be polite, courteous and explain why you can't do anything. I think you sir, are reading way too much into 2 weeks of no SKY television.

    You are being just as self righteous by assuming that you are going to be some sort of super world peace negotiator that would never have a problem because of your amazing beer talent. I'm telling you I'd be polite, it isn't a big deal (it is two weeks) and I don't have the cash. Sorry. Pushing it harder for 2 weeks for SKY tv when as mentioned earlier, is not your problem legally, that is going to rectify its self in less than a month?

    There is a guy here at my work who used to do SKY installations and he just said to me that this case sounds like a **** installation in the first place.

    If you can't put a hanging basket on your house without effecting someones television experience then it is a leap in logic to ask me for money about it - someone has dicked you over on the original installation.
     
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  17. Teknokid

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    Whilst I don't think the neighbours have acted in a great way here, there's a very easy solution.

    OP just needs to show them a little thing called sky go and maybe offer something in the way of an apology for disrupting their service.
     
  18. benji2412

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    Forget legality and forgot telling them to do one, you have to live near these folk and it's only £50 to have the thing moved. I'd just keep them sweet, at the end of the day you need to pick the battles you waste your time with and this doesn't sound like one I'd bother with.

    edit: I've bothered to now read more than the OP. Sounds like you're in a bad place but I'd still try to keep them sweet, even if they are undesirables, because you have to live near them.
     
  19. law99

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    If you don't have £50, then that, my friend, is a deal breaker.
     
  20. benji2412

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    I wouldn't say that's necessarily the case, there are plenty more solutions than just having to pay a man £50. I wouldn't take their word for that anyway, they don't exactly sound like great people.

    At the end of the day I can't advise anything because I haven't met the OP or their neighbours and a lot of these things are based on interaction. You can quote whose responsibility it is etc. and be the honest person, but that might not stop them from being petty in the future as a result.

    If you haven't got the money, that's that I suppose, you can't do anything about it. If they want to start throwing abuse at you, let them. The minute they threaten you though, is when you call the relevant authorities and report them, but you know that anyway.

    Some people are unreasonable and if you want to have a moral compass and be a stand up person, you have to pander to their antics on the odd occasion unfortunately.
     

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