Education Cheating, Have you ever?

Reddit had a post on cheating and wanted to see what experiences people have had and what their thoughts were on it.

Not had many relationships but generally regard cheating as a horrible thing to do to someone. But there are different levels of cheating, someone might fall in love with someone behind your back, if this is the case and they no longer love you then if this happened to you and they didnt mean it happen could you really blame them as long as they tell promptly enough?

Or someone having a one night stand either drunk or not but no more connection with the person, is this forgivable once but no more or would you rather they never told you as they should live with the guilt not you?

What about couple who for whatever reason don't have so much sex anymore but one of the two still has a sex drive. They love their partner in every other way but are missing out on something important to them, if they see a prostitute say or have a one night stand for example every few months maybe but it keeps the loving relationship together (say with kids thrown in) is this such a bad thing?

Your thoughts. thanks.

 

I've been married to my wife for 5yrs now, but we have been together for much longer. I've never felt the need to cheat on her, and have never been really tempted. I was pretty promiscuous as a single man though before I met my wife. I never cheated on anyone, by lying to them, but I did have a few open ended relationships. I do sometimes think about the times I had before I got married, but I don't miss it.

I don't see the point in cheating on someone, as you are just making your own life extremely complicated, and liars are always caught out eventually. I think if you find a woman you care about, who can offer herself as a partner, and is willing to do so, then only a mug would jeapordise that for a bit on the side. I see some of my mates playing around behind their partners backs, and I have also seen the devastation in can cause when they get caught out. What's the point? If I ever felt the need to stray, I would leave my wife before I would cheat on her. I would also expect her to do the same too.

 

I could write a book on this subject mainly on how to get away with it. I've had more women than most men could even dream about. I'm not saying it's right,but thats just the way I used to be.
But I would have to agree with Stuartpb that since meeting my misses nearly 9 years ago and having kids all that sort of stuff has gone out the window, maybe it's just meeting the right person that finally bring it all to a stop
Some people will say I'm a right old **** and I would agree with them..lol but hey, thats life.

 

As long as nobody find out about me and your mum all is good....

 

I was wondering how long that would take :roll

I've never cheated as such (overlapped a few relationships before by a day or two, but that doesn't count, does it?), but I've been cheated a few times, it's not the nicest of experiences to say the least (though finding out on your birthday makes it much better )

 

The lack of rep saddens me

 

Over lapped a few friendships..lol, I've never heard it quite put like that before...+ rep fella

 

My take on cheating is that if I feel like I would cheat on the person I was with then it is time to move on. This is what happened to my last GF and even though I did NOT cheat on her, I felt the temptation which told me that the relationship was going nowhere. With my first GF however, I never even considered cheating and in general I believe that cheating or the temptation to cheat is an instant sign of a crumbling or non-existent relationship.

 

Done it once and never again. I felt so ashamed i called her the next morning and told her everything. The relationship carried on, but it was never the same again. Every argument that came up, had at least one mention of my infidelity. How do you counter that? You can't, because you will never get that trust back, and you know you have hurt her.

My problem was that the girl i cheated with was my best friend. My gf said i couldn't see her again, but you can't avoid your friend forever, not that i wanted to anyway. So eventually the relationship ended.

Don't do it. Don't even think about it.

 

Your like my mate he seems to go out with anything that moves literally days after...

I never understand how he does that

I've never cheated but i was cheated on, she told me and thought it was somehow amusing, that day i walked away and never looked back

We never spoke after that day and im glad it showed me she did'nt care the slightest about are relationship she tryed to contact me after saying "Say something please" to which i replyed "Congratulations, I think its best we just call it a day"

 

Only had one morally ambiguous relationship moment in my (admittedly limited) lifespan.

Had just entered a new relationship when a friend I'd been interested but was taken told me she'd leave her current boyfriend for me if I wanted. That was a tough one. Either a) deny her and continue my current relationship, b) accept her offer and potentially hurt current girlfriend (getting dumped after two weeks is pretty shitty) or c) exploit the fact that neither one knew the other was interested/involved with me.

Option C was obscenely tempting, but I couldn't have lived with myself. Option B might have gone well but again I'd feel bad for the two people getting dumped. Ended up going with option A, didn't work out but at least I feel good about my choice.

That was enough moral dilemma for me.

 

No i never would, I would never like to be cheated on and it'd end the relationship im in within seconds, If i got cheated on i'd go berserk and hunt down the lad, But then you have to remember it takes 2 to mingle so its better she cheats sooner then later, or rather never.

I believe in leaving other lads girls alone, And would like them to leave mine alone,

If your in a relationship and it's open, fine fair dues you've both agreed to it,

But once you overstep that line, Where's the trust? What the hell are you doing in a relationship, If i ain't good enough/can't provide with/for you, then what are you doing? Just Go

I have issues with cheating, and see it as low, scum, and horrible, Getting away with it? Yeah just be tend to be happy withholding a lie, It'd kill me inside. (you'll get found out in the end anyway)

Edited to avoid conflict -.-

 

I don't like cheating. I have never cheated, never will. It's one of the few things in life I am inflexible about.

 

A mate of mine once asked why I don't seem to have an urge to really settle down...

I replied if you can have 500 women or make love to the same woman 500 times which would you prefer???

He couldn't really say much to that...

Back to the subject, it would depend on the character of the person in question but you find the vast percentage have or have been tempted to if their honest.

 

Have never and would never cheat. Well I guess it's easy to say having been and going to be a single for aaaaages. Still, it just doesn't seem like a thing I'd do.

I did once ring my then-GF's doorbell to get some random dude (edit whoops I guess I'd seen him a time or two before) in his boxers to open the door for me. Shrugged and walked to make a cup of cocoa.

edited, remembered wrong at first. Go figure how long it is since that. Sigh

 

that's nuts!

 

Most blokes in the UK would have thrown him face first down a flight of stairs then went for something a bit stronger than cocoa lol

 

[/Incredibly lame mode]

*Ahem* Now, cheating would be a horrible thing to do. I mean, why would you cheat on someone you choosed to stay with? For me that would seem illogical at first but everyone may have their reasons. I've seen women cry for being cheated on, It's heartbreaking...But still, I would stay loyal to my woman. (If I ever had one, see ForeverAlone.jpg)

 

You know .. There is a special place in hell reserved for people who cheat. Being drunk is not an excuse and neither is being in love. If you are in a position to make the choice whether to cheat or not you are in a position to call your girlfriend/wife and tell her it's over.

Simple as that.

One of my great friends considered cheating on his GF once. I told him I would knock him silly if he ever did it.

 

Isn't cheating one of the capital sins?