Education Cheating, Have you ever?

I would never do it myself. I don't want my girlfriend to do it to me, so I won't do it to her. Plus I have no desire to anyway.

 

Exactly because you now know your best mate doesn't care if any girl he sleeps with has a boyfriend so you will/would never know what he's possibly thinking about your other half!

I've got a mate (ex best mate) don't see him as that now, that when I was with a woman he was far too close to her and subsequently he ended up seeing her before we split up! This is what I was talking about in a previous post of mine but I never had any concrete proof that he was! Either way when we split up he did end up with her SURPRISE SURPRISE... and now they've split up, he had a kid with her (I didn't) and now she's making his life hell, he's even lost his job because of her and barely sees his own kid, it's all going through the courts, they do say what goes around comes around though....

Anyway I make damn sure he keeps his distance from my current girlfriend for the basic fact I don't trust him around her (I trust her) but I don't trust him to not try something behind my back, at least this way he won't get the f*cking chance as I'd rip his c*ck off if he tried

 

It takes 2 to cheat....

Bit of an iffy subject for me to comment on as i not long separated from my partner of 5 years on the fact that i was convinced she was cheating on me, no actual proof but nothing she said added up with what the rest of the world was saying.
However we are trying to work things out, i firmly believe im capable of forgiving and forgetting. The whole experience may make us stronger as a couple providing we do it the right way (guess i sound mad?)

You never know if you are capable of cheating until the chance arises and believe me when the chance arises it is harder to say no then most people think.

 

Exactly it takes 2 to cheat but like I said I had no proof, so I didn't know for sure did I.

By the way you saying you never know if you are capable of cheating until the chance arises, I strongly disagree with you as I know I would NEVER cheat on anyone I was seeing, simply based on the fact I wouldn't want it happening to me AGAIN, but needless to say I knew before I was ever cheated on the 1st time that I would NEVER cheat on someone as I'm a genuine person who god forbid actually has some morals!

 

I was aiming at your current(?) relationship, you trust her not to cheat but you dont trust him not to cheat with her? Sorry if i misread what you said or got it backwards.

I don't think anybody wants to be cheated on but when you are the potential cheater things look very differently.

 

I had an ex who suggested her friend joined us one night. This was all her idea, and being a normal red blooded male, I felt I had to oblige .
Anyway, the next morning she said that she couldn't look at me the same way, and within a week we went our own ways, neither of us thought this was cheating to start with, but she changed her mind after the event. So the answer is no cheating is wrong, after she told me she thought I'd cheated on her, I felt pretty bad.

 

Yes I think you misread my post,

I trust her not to cheat but I don't trust him not to try it on, obviously he can't cheat with her if she doesn't let him, I just don't trust him not to try it on thinking he's got a chance like he clearly thought and did have with my ex (now also his ex) girlfriend.

This time in my mind he has no chance, but I'm still taking no chances, he keeps his distance from my girlfriend and that's just how I like it! He alway's suggests that we all go round to his for a coffee but she doesn't know him very well anyway (plus she's not bothered about getting to know him, and this I know for a fact) and his most recent girlfriend he's also split up with because she wanted things he couldn't give to her, for example she wanted to move in with him (but he wouldn't move out his current village because he said his mum and dad wouldn't visit him! As it would be too far for them to go to visit!) they can and do use buses!

But he was quite happy for her to move to the village he lives in away from her family, she also wanted kids and he didn't want anymore, fair enough but he only didn't want anyway because his ex f*cked him over with the kid he had with her.

Either way he's now 30 and I highly doubt he'll trust any woman again, but I'll make damn sure he stays away from mine! Like I said though what goes around comes around, he shouldn't have got with the woman I was seeing at the time behind my back (but he's regretting it now) and he isn't seeing the kid he had with her until it goes through the courts properly, I only know he was seeing her because his brother told me, I had no concrete proof but I didn't need it, I knew anyway, she already had kids of her own and well let's just say when I was still seeing her one of her kids said she'd seen him and her upstairs in the bedroom and she was 'cuddling' him! When he was apparently ill, erm excuse me when I was still seeing her....

He's getting what he deserves now though, he shouldn't have sh*t on his ex best mate (me), and now he's split up from the girl he was seeing up until recently, he suddenly wants me to go round town with him and go round to his a lot more often than he ever did when he was with her, all I think to that is f*ck him, it's not nice to be on the receiving end of someone who now just doesn't give a f*ck! But I think he's getting the message, I'll reply to his txts when I feel like it and I'll go round when I feel like it not when he needs a shoulder to cry on.

I know I'm a bitch but so was he seeing my ex behind my back, the pr*ck!

 

Sorry to hear that, John. You and Cheaps were what got me hooked on this site in the first place (the mini-ITX waterblock, IIRC)

 

I actually had the chance to cheat on my ex-gf. Politely told the girl to f-off.

 

Ah then i apologise, i read it as you trust her but if he tried it on with her and got what he wanted then it would of been down to him alone. To many people think like that its scary.

 

As it is, We talked about it allot last night, and he's been talking to lads misses behind there back, sending / getting images, He said oh well they ain't seen me for months, Doesn't he realise how much i hate cheating? whys he telling me this? I'd turn up at his front door and break his jaw in 3 different places and laugh at the trouble i get in!,

I'm currently talking to a very nice girl, who wants a long relationship, exc, We're currently adjusting to each other, getting to know each other better exc, but we know what we want!

When we form the relationship, I'm proud to say I'll be losing contact with him, Leaving facebook, and hopefully moving on with my live,

Sorry best mate but -
You Can't be trusted around other peoples girls - which makes you a nobody when i'm with someone.

 

Would this be the girl that helped you keep the population of bit on the edge of proverbial seats?

 

No, I'm afraid not, the distance is too great, I'm seeing her on the 19th though,

 

You're trying to form a long term relationship with one girl yet you're seeing another girl on the 19th? I do hope you keep it in your pants then....








I got a question for all of yous.....

Do you consider it cheating when a guy/girl gets a stripper for his/her bachelor(ette) party? I think it is cheating. What do you think?

 

Depends on how much you interact with stripper. If you sit there and take it, I wouldn't say you are cheating but if you end up banging the stripper you might have a problem explaning it.

 

So then you can also go a club or whatever and if a girl starts dancing and grinding on you, it's okay to let her do it? I disagree.

 

Are we talking about stripping or a straight up lap dance here? Because if you think stripping is cheating then so is merely looking at another woman. Or watching a video of one.

 

A lap dance is what I mean.

Sorry for confusion.



Though I don't think it is okay to go to a strip club either, but that is a totally different topic we don't need to discuss.

 

No it's not okay to go to a strip club, but I understood your post as a surprise stripper hired by your friends for your 30 year birthday or the like.

If you go to a strip club you are actively seeking "naked" women.

 

IMO if you stay it is just as bad. I would get up and leave. Who cares about a stripper when I can have sex with my wife? (if I were married)