After seeing Elladan's post and the mature response decided this was a place to discuss this. I am 24 never had sex and only once had a very short term girlfriend (only 2 kisses total activity). To be clear I'm a nice guy (and I'm not claiming that without good reason) romantic who thinks cheating, and lying about certain things within a relationship to be horrible etc etc . I am considering going to see an escort (by this i mean a mid-high level one who isn't on drugs is not being forced, who has their own place where they entertain clients and at least to some extent is likely to enjoy some of their work). From other dicussions on punting forums who have pros in attendance this seems to the case that if you choose wisely and pay a reasonable amount the women enjoy their work and do it out of choice etc etc. Not interested in a drunken one night stand, for starters I don't drink and for me I would rather a full emotional relationship or just sex not a quasi non clear thing in between with someone not fully in control. Apart from the fact I don't have the short term chat up skills to get one. Seeming an escort also seems more honest, you know what your getting and so do they. This quote express a bit of what I mean. “I have felt more guilt after one-nightstands than I have felt after going to a prostitute,” says Sam. “As long as prostitution is done in a legal and consensual way, there is almost more honesty in it than in picking up a girl in a bar, where you are toying with people’s emotions and giving false impressions in order to get something physical.” Had this discussion on several other forums, but they were american and would prefer a british perspective on this. My query was no so much about the morals of it, I am generally of the opinion that what people choose to do with other adults is their business etc etc. Although I would welcome any constructive agruments for or against it on moral grounds (excluding religious beliefs pls). It was about why for some women it was a dealbreaker. The discusions boiled down to there being two types of women I will have meaningful relationships with in the future, for those who it would be a deal breaker and those who would accept it. Sort of leaning towards if a woman couldn't accept this then she wouldn't be for me. For I would be accepting of many things that had taken place before or accept that somethings need not be told. Current thoughts lean to not telling if I thought they wouldn't accept but if at all possible telling if I don't think it will ruin things although would prefer to tell the truth if at all possible and not have to lie. Many people on the forums felt that what happen before in a sex life can stay in the past without a problem as long as no health risks involved (obviously I would get checked before sleeping with a new partner if I go through with it). Only issue with this is as its the first time this often comes up as an anecdote and with my first real relationship that leads to sex it would come up as to whether I was a virgin or not. So I can either lie, tell the truth or if lucky talk around it. What are your thoughts on the subject (morally or relating to how it will be seen in future relationships), anyone done anything similar or have people they know done this? What were their experiences etc etc? If anything within this is unclear please let me know and I will clarify. Thank you for your thoughts.