My Mrs was telling me about how rough it is in a new job. Missing all the mates from her old job. Not settled in at the new one yet. And she's a bit upset. Anyway, while she's telling me all this. I listen and respond appropratley While she's telling me all the important things that are going on.... the theme for topgear starts on the telly. I watch it. I missed the "REALLY" important thing she wants to tell me. I know I should have been listening. I know that what she has to say is more important (and I know topgear is on Sunday) I just couldn't help myself. I know I'd get ear ache for it. I still did it. She's now downstairs in a foul mood. I'm up here guilty as charged. Sometimes I hate being a bloke, doing stupid things. I understand her point of view. If I wanted to tell her sumut that was importan to me and she said "shut up bigbrother is on" I'd be in a fould mood with her.
Man up, get back down there. Apologise for not listening, and tell her you want to help and 'lets talk about it'. Job done, 2 hours later it'll be right as rain. She'll think more of you for admitting you're mistake and for doing something about it.
+1 the best thing to do is man up and apologize. Say, "I'm sorry i wasn't paying attention, i understand that getting into a new job is rough and me not listening doesn't help it any. However, you now have my full undivided attention and if you would like to tell me again I might be able to offer some suggestions to help out" --edit-- damn that was a lot of posts within the last 3 minutes.
Yes. From recent experience, yes. I think it's just how men and womens minds work differently - women can focus on many things at once, men focus on one thing in detail.
I've already appologised. I knew I was in the wrong. Being sorry and in the wrong dose not make it right (well not for a while)
I know other dudes do. I don't. Sorry. But get your priorities straight. Either top gear will love you your whole life and stick with you through all the **** life throws at you or she will. It seems silly to me that you can't ignore the TV for someone that is everything to you. Seriously, I love cars. But to think that my wife is second best is wack. If all you had to do is take 10 minutes out of your life and listen, and failed at that, the let her go so someone with some balls can love her and make her happy. Because you are the dredges and she can do 100x better then a TV junkie. And, yes, I got rid of my TV 10 years ago to make a point of making her the most important thing in my life. So I do, in fact, practice what I preach. Get a life. Make her the point of it and kill your TV. Or move back in with mom and let her get on with a real man. horse crap. She'll just save it for the next time you put your foot in it. Show her with concrete action or piss off. Yah de yah de yah de, isn't going to cut it. The next time she needs to unload on you, turn the TV OFF! Top gear over love.....you have issues man.
Umm guys... there was an awesome opportunity for make up sex here... i hope you cashed in on that Unknowngamer
Honestly, I do it. But i'm not married. And usually they aren't venting either. When they talk seriously, I listen.
I have been with my wife Marilyn since 1975. This is a good thing learn. Paying attention is a learned skill for men. +rep for the apology john
You Sir are a bad influence my GF is sit less than 4 feet away from me using her PC yet we are emailing each other back and forth since, shes not talking to me after I texted her the "can I tap that?" question.
That's shocking, no I don't do this because my woman knows 8pm on a Sunday to shut the hell up for an hour or she'll get the back of my hand. Must go now, she says it's bedtime.
Lolz, got sky + (HD) Still cant help it. I really do try. I've allways been a bit scatty and prone to wander off in thougt or be easilly distracted. Hell I wander off topic when I'm the one talking....... The problem with that excuse is she'll say, you're not distracted when your on the computer. There's no come back. She's got me bang to rights...... So humble pie, and sorry.
Its worse when you just tone out and start playing the theme tune in your head... Man Up. Stand your ground, you have apolagised, i assume asked to know what she said, and didnt tell you, nothing else to do, she will tell you eventually.
