Never suggest anything to a woman, they don't want them, they talk just to vent. They're strange creatures like that.
interflora.co.uk hotelchocolat.co.uk other stuff Because saying sorry just isn't enough. and over the last ten years I have been well trained to turn off the tv if the other half needs to vent.
and you need to grow a set. ok so you turned your head when the top gear theme came on. you were momentarily distracted. seems like a mild ticking off offence to me.
That's not strictly true - males are just as capable as females. At most of the intellectual conferences I have been to, and various other talks and presentations, the really good presenters always manage to have about 5 or 6 questions asked of them without answering any (complicated mind you, usually a topic of intense complexity), then give the answers to each question completely and wholly in succession. I've seen this done by both women and men.
put the coffee down...now step away from the caffine..there you go...breathe in 1,2,3,4 breathe out 1,2,3,4 see nice and easy isn't that better
it was rude for her not to check the TV guide first, she could have waited until something she likes comes on!
Hmm, I dunno. I've never had a girlfriend who's had this magical multi-tasking property. As a random aside, we went to my ma's for our hols this tear and my missus told her to shut up when My Name is Earl was on the telly. I actually think she said something like "Do you mind not talking, this is the only decent thing on the tv all week." She's met my mum 3 times. How I lol'd.
Yeah I mess up from time to time - we all do I expect, and it's just part of being human. I and the missus have reached a compromise; we don't watch all that much TV, but the shows we're interested in we're allowed to watch undisturbed. Apart from that our TV is mainly used for movies, and, more commonly, documentaries. So when Top Gear is on, she'll let me have that hour, and when Eastenders or *shudder* "So You Think You Can Dance" is on, I'll leave her alone. We're still able to vent to eachother, and to discuss serious matter in an adult way I think. Though sometimes she will be talking to me, and something might distract me so that I miss what she's been saying. When this happens, and it does on ocassion, I will simplay say "sorry, I got distracted, what were you saying?" As you've already apologized, the hard part is done. Just approach her and start talking.
Oh God, I honestly can't stand 'Nation... the average mental age must be 12... get over to p8ntballer instead! Back on topic, unknowngamer, it's your fault for not having it set to record Top Gear!
Sorry? It's got nothing to do with growing a set, I've had mine since I was 9. Maybe you, and the OP should learn what it means to be a man. When was the last time you were able to keep a woman happy for 10 years. What? never? It's got nothing to do with balls, mate. It's about not being a cock and recognizing what is important in life. Ask anyone over 30 in here that is married and 90% of the time they'll tell you; listening, empathy and putting the lip down are the 3 most important things. Putting a TV show over the one you love isn't about having pair, it's about being an insensitive ****. Do you think John, Nexxo, or GOO sit around like homer simpson and tell the bitch what to do? or do you think we recognize when our loved ones need to off load on us? Trust me, any ass the chooses a TV show over 10 minutes of showing someone how important they are, doesn't deserve them. No one has ever buried a loved one and said, 'boy, I wish I had had more Top Gear time'. And as for the 'back of the hand' comment, nice. Another wife beater in the making. Ever cross your mind that it's tougher to be a man and a partner in life and crime then it is to be a woman beater. What? did you father beat your mom before a TV show came on or something? Seriously, if you pick a TV show over a loved one, you have issues. and not a set. And you all wonder what is wrong with society today.........
I think you're overstating the issue somewhat (well, a lot actually - how you make the jump from a light hearted joke to domestic abuse is beyond me, but it's not the thinking of someone who's grounded in reality). So he got distracted when a TV show came on. What's the big deal? TV shows are designed to entertain us and hold our attention, so it's only human that someone can be easily distracted by one. Not everyone can be 100% focussed on one thing all the time, sometimes our minds wander now and again, and I won't believe you if you tell me that you're any different. He knows he shouldn't have done it and that he should have listened to her. He apologised. Does it mean he doesn't love his wife as you are suggesting? Of course not, that's a hell of a leap to make.
Point 1: Backhand comments are quite clearly a joke. Relax - I find it hard to believe any member of this forum would raise his hand to a woman. Point 2: You speak as if this is a repeated occurrence, rather than a slip of judgement and a subconscious change in train of thought; to the point where you are suggesting he is choosing Top Gear over a relationship from a very permanent perspective, which is quite clearly not the case. Stop blowing a subconscious slip of the mind WAY WAY WAY WAY out of proportion. Point 3: Just because you are more capable at avoiding the stupid little things that men generally do but mean nothing by it, doesn't make you any better than any of this lot on here - so stop talking like it. High horse dismounted, please. Point 4: Anyone else think it's spooky how this weeks Top Gear spoke about men and multi-tasking! roflcopter.
wow Jumeira_Johnny you do need to chill a little bit or at least re-read and re-word some of your post as it sounds really stressy, although i do understand to a point where you are coming from, re-read the 'back of my hand' comment and i have tried to re-emphasise what i think it meant to read like
Really? So, you think this is a healthy attitude? one we should encourage in young men? or maybe you don't feel comfortable standing up in a 99% male forum and saying, "it's an inappropriate comment to make, suggesting it's ok to smack a girl around over an episode of top gear". Or maybe you think your mothers' or sisters' would be fantastically happy to see those posts? Make them proud, maybe? And no, I'm not overstating it. Distracted by a TV vs someone I love? It's a choice you make, not something to blame on an electronic device. Again, we make decisions, and how we make them speaks volumes to those we care about. I need to chill? Nice. Maybe you need to look past the self depreciating comment at the end, and look at the first part. Because that is by far the larger underlying issue. I might suggest taking it up with some one who gets smacked around a bit, and see how funny it strikes them...what with the underlined part and all. I'm sure you'll find how that last bit makes it all ok. For those not in the loop...your actions show a woman what you mean -and what they mean to you- a thousand times more then what you say, flowers, candy or anything else.
This was pretty much the point of my post: in this case it clearly wasn't an intentional decision he made between the TV and his wife, and I don't really know why you insist on reading it that way. And no, I don't agree that blasé, off-the-cuff remarks about domestic abuse should be encouraged, but in this case it was clearly meant as a joke (although admittedly it isn't as obvious in kingred's post).
Feck that, tell her next time she's got something "important" to talk about make damn sure it's not when something important is on the box. Anyone who says your in the wrong for being distracted for that 15 seconds needs to claw the trousers (and their sack) back from their missus.
so Jumeira_Johnny what you are saying is that in 10 years of marriage you have NEVER not even once been distracted by ANYTHING when your wife has been talking to you? as that to me seems to be the point you are pushing, if this is the case you are either a extraordinary person or very self deluded as I personally do not know of any person, man, woman or child who can honestly say they have never been distracted by something when someone they care for has been talking to them yes it seems to me you need to chill, and if you would like to know one of my best friends used to have a boyfriend who used to smack her about a lot so i know more about this issue than you seem to give anyone credit for slight question, do you have any sense of humour? As to me it seems like you would not get any joke as you couldn't wait until a punch line, this is because a LOT of jokes are based on the self depreciating comments at the end of the situation, although the subject matter of this particular 'joke' might be upsetting to some people it is very rare to find anything which will not offend someone however historically these types of joke are used to breach the gap between a taboo subject which needs to be addressed and actually doing something about it, as a joke can bring the problem into a discussion without attacking someone, which generally allows people to talk about the subject matter and try to come up with a solution without getting into a defensive mindset unfortunately the way you have gone about and worded your posts is very aggressive which has in my mind created this defensive mindset for people on this tread, - which is why I believe you need to chill you have personally come over as a much more aggressive and potentially violent person than the person who actually posted that his wife would get the back of his hand, and this is down to the way in which you have 'attacked' the other peoples comments yes domestic violence is wrong and we need to support and help everyone who suffers it however this thread itself started with the op acknowledging he had done wrong with getting distracted and seemed to be asking for ideas on how he might stop himself doing it from others who have the same problem, yes some comments are not exactly helpful but I would of hoped anyone with an ounce of common sense can see those posts for what they are sorry didn't realise how long this comment was....
By that logic - any comedy that relies at all on belittling someone for some reason is entirely wrong, IRRELEVANT of the context? Right? So just because someone has jokingly toyed with the concept of hitting a woman on here, means they virtually advocate it - and would not have a problem rubbing it in a victims face? Right? Talk about narrow minded....
