I think I understand what's going on here. Could you NOT be a Top Gear fan ? just trying to provoke you here and see how much you will overreact. You seriously believe that if someone gets distracted by something, it means they don't pay attention,respect or care about the person who's trying to talk to them ? A TV is no different than if you were watching a cat cross the street or a kids play with a ball and it catched your attention. Would you say that's wrong too if you miss ONE FREAKING SENTENCE FROM SOMEONE just because you were looking out the window ?. It's not as if his gf or wife had been talking to him for 25 minutes and he didn't listen we get your point okay , you dont have a TV and therefore you say TV is evil and bla bla bla. The thing is, not everyone is like you and the fact that they don't live their lives the same way as you do doesn't mean they're insensitive ****ers who'll never keep a woman happy. .... And why do you think guys here are serious when they're talking about slaps ? It's humour. Yes, it's dark internet humour, but it's for fun. I doubt anyone here would actually do it or teach their kids to do it
if my misses had my trousers and sack id let her get on with it personally, don't know about you lol. @ the op, everyone makes mistakes, learn from it and try not to do it in the future, its the only thing you can do, and if you both love each other she'll forgive you, it just takes time, things that sometimes don't seem that big a deal to men sometimes means a great deal to the woman, but if she loves you she won't be mad for too long, just try not to make another mistake anytime soon as it'll all get blown up in your face. And the people saying grow a pair are either finding this really really funny, or have never had a serious relationship, i know Jumeira_Johnny might seem angry but he's probably got reason after seeing all the dicks who don't know how to have a real relationship and have onesided or abusive ones, just try to be a little more sensitive guys and tone it down. That reminds me i forgot top gear was on tonight D:
Lawl, I love the way summer heat brings out the SRS BUSINESS side of less humourous members; it's like the weather itself is trolling the forum :> I'd like to thank atanum for providing the 'Tap that' thread link: it's comedy gold. I'm currently trying to think of somebody I could send it to without destroying a friendship
this is a funny thread, I'm not unlike the original poster and have an excellent ability to tune the missus right out. I have to say though that sometimes I do it purposely and revel in the 3 days of silent treatment and her stomping around the house, I just pop my head phones on and finally get some quality gaming in until she realizes her points weren't that important after all If we as blokes don't do things like this, what are women going to talk about with their girl friends, mums, random women on the internet, it's blokes like us keeping the other women in her life, often the partners of your friends busy, I see it as a service, a duty even, with a bit of teamwork and decent timing you can share the duty around thus giving you a break when one of your friends is in the doghouse, [doghouse being upstairs on the computer playing BF or CSS with you laughing about it over a few beer, or prehaps down the pub to give her 'space' ]
Great minds think alike, Mr Kenco Sir! If the GF starts to tell me something important, I hit pause on the sky hd remote. Even if she complains I paused it, at least I cut off that issue at the knees before she got upset with me for not listening
well back on topic the best course of action here would have been to act quickly as you are in the wrong realise you had become distracted turned the tv down then said sorry i got distracted could you say that again. (if that didnt work she is being unreasonable) if you missed the boat on that and if she had gone down/upstairs she is clearly upset i would wait ten minutes then go try and give her a hug and ask her what the problem at work was if that didnt work and she is angry at you say to her she is being unreasonable then go upstairs for an hour (game time!!!) after an hour or so go make some toast and try to give her a hug (don't offer the toast let her take it herself, will get her close to you) say sorry for getting distracted earlier didnt mean anything by it whats up? again if she still wont talk to you go back to your comp for a bit then go to bed before her. <this will make her need to hug you when she gets into bed at this point you have the moral highground and she knows it you can be a little annoyed with her and she will try to make it up to you at no point should you ever apologise for more than a momentory lapse in concentration or you will have to apologise every time you sneeze oh and johnny i truly hope you are intentionally trolling because otherwise you have some serious issues my friend
I do it with video games every so often. I'm not normally as talkative as she is, and we both spend our days talking-oftentimes we both try to filter chat (and I have really nice noise-canceling headphones to help me) and sometimes we filter each other. If she does it to me, I admit I get pissed, but there's nothing like watching my wife realize I might not hang on every bit of gossip that spews from her lips. I swear she hides important stuff in there, like we're broke or the cat is on the ceiling again. Couched in gossip (which I try to avoid as much as possible-I want to live my life alone, not others' vicariously as well) is something of super importance and she's doing it deliberately. Or, at least I think that. I may simply grunt through the "I is serious, k?" when she says it occasionally. In our case, the issue comes from a quirk of mine-I love silence. Dead silence. I'll take nature sounds, or good music, but I prefer silence, and there is none of that in today's society. Sometimes, I tune out cause I'm burned out and I miss something important. It happens, bu that does not mean I'm completely an ass-I just have tendencies toward assholish behavior. If they married us because we were perfect, nobody would be married. She isn't perfect either, and that's the main point. Apologize when you're wrong, and don't keep count of failures. We aren't playing for points here. Getting rid of the TV is also a great move. She won't listen to me at all if it's on.
I agree that joking about giving a woman a backhand is very inappropriate. I would think a baseball bat would be much more efficient.
Ah well, all cool after a couple of days. Anyway a few folks missed the point topgear wasnt one, it was a trailer, just got my attention. As a side note. If it was TV&PC or Wife, Wife wins (but due in part to not wanting to lose the kids), if it was an ultimatum then she'd get me. But my wife is pretty cool most of the time, and I dont think I'll ever be in that situation (unless I did sumut prime idiot, like go online dating and have an affair, which I wont BTW).
If you all joke about backhands to the wife (or baseball bats), I can joke about supergluing said male member to inner thigh as revenge. ;P
Old guy's rule #4 - Never fall asleep leaving a female unfulfilled. Live it. "Do again?" "Still doing!" john /edit I wonder if that made any sense to anyone under 30?
You could but to physically manage to glue said member to said inner thigh would require you to be hands on which for some members of this forum (who shall remain nameless) would be the most action that they have had in years
A bit off topic, but Ryu, i find your avatar strangly hypnotic... ....... ... ....... Back on topic, all the comments on backhanding women (or the few who are predisposed to not getting their hands dirty and prefer baseball bats) seem to be plainly meant to lighten up the mood in this thread. But cookie's post was probably the most innocent of all those posted, but perhaps Johnny didn't closely read the entire post in a go? And if you were disagreeing with the use of it as a joke medium, perhaps you should have specified, b/c at first it seemed you were taking it literally.
I'd never listen when I was on the PC/watching TV. Now me and my fiancee have split up and I've moved out. Her fault that happened, but point is listen when you need to!!
My take on it: We moved house on the 27th July. My PC is still unplugged on the floor in the new house, two weeks later. I'm posting this from work --the first time I've been here again (except once to put my Cooler Master ATC-S4000 up for sale). Why? Too busy playing house with my wife to be on the PC. It is simply not a priority. I am crap at multitasking. I am a grade-A, very right-handed male with a brain more lateralised and compatimentalised than a obsessive-compulsive's sock drawer. I know this. It's a miracle I can even do psychotherapy, even when I'm in a room with only two chairs, facing the client. So knowing this, when my wife needs my attention, I drop what I'm doing. I mute the TV, pause the playback, turn my back to the screen or walk away from the keyboard. I know I have to, or something will distract me, and that will upset her. It's my cognitive disability, if you will. What I'm saying is: know your weaknesses, vanquish them. Know your desires, and let them go. You'll be a better man, and a better partner.
No. I get hit with the nearest blunt instrument until I pay attention. Rather un-surprisingly, it works wonders.
The sad thing is the same thing just happened to me except over MSN which is even more distracting. So many tabbed windows, youtube videos ... it goes on.
wow, just wow. im having a hard time registering this all... so bare with me. some guy got distracted, and consequently made his wife upset due to what seemed to be his lack of care and / or attention at the time.... he sheepishly made a quick topic explaining the situation and wondered if anyone ever made such silly mistakes. and this is the result?! i find it unfair that certain people will judge unknowngamer and his commitment to his relationship, make assumptions on his priorities, and then mock him for his mistake as if they themselves have never once mildly upset another. infact, yes. im talking about you Jumeira_Johnny in paticular
