I need some quick advice. My grandma's funeral is on friday and I'm not sure how well-suited (ha ha) my current suit is. It's a haphazard composite affair that works fairly well as a unit but was pieced together for dinners and such. So it includes a dinner jacket: That kind of thing roughly. I can't find more polished definitions anywhere - is there a difference between this and other jackets such that this would be inappropriate? Or is a smart jacket a smart jacket? Also, my black tie and white shirt are both solid colours, but they have those faint bands of heavier stitching in it - not sure what the effect is called. Like that but not quite as noticeable. Is that effect suitable or do I need to buy proper solid colour ones with no banding?
That's an interesting question. Personally I'd go out and buy a formal, dark-coloured suit. A dinner jacket is just the wrong cut imo, and it'll stand out to those who know the difference. I don't think the tie makes that much difference - a black tie is a black tie. Other than that though I'm sorry to hear you have to go to a funeral.
Lapels are wrong on a DJ for a funeral. I've seen all sorts turn up at funerals but tradition and etiquette would suggest an ordinary straight cut black single or double breasted blazer with plain black trousers with a single break before the shoe. Matched with a white shirt and plain black tie.
Buying a suit may be troublesome, I have £350 to last me until january. edit - I forgot to mention, it's in France. If the French take their funerals as seriously as they take just about everything else (with the exception of music, of course) then they'll crucify me if I get this wrong.
Go Topman/Burton or Next and pick up a £120 combo Suit/Shirt/Tie. Job done. Make it either a dark colour Black/Navy or dk grey.
Primark do pretty respectable suits for about £50. They won't last for thousands of wearings, but they do the job if you need a rare-wear suit.
So far ive been to 2 funerals, all i wore was a black suit jacket, standard black trousers. Light coloured shirts for me not white, light puple and a light blue. Both times ive worn my Pacman belt. Ive always been of the belief that you have to go as yourself albeit smartly dressed. They're never nice but being there is the most important thing imo.
Where in france? South? They won't care less about how you are dressed. Most of them will be too druk to remember anyway. North? Just wear the most unremarkable suit you have. I wouldn't go as far as buying new clothes for a funeral. Just don't turn up in your allstars and you'll be fine.
First of all, sorry to hear about your grandmother. I'm with Lovah on this one - don't worry about it too much. If people complain about the way you're dressed they're asses and shouldn't be there in the first place. Remind them that it's your grandmothers funeral, not a fashion show. Otherwise there's also the option of forgoing the jacket altogether and getting yourself a nice black shirt. Wear it with your tie, black trousers (the ones from your suit?) and black dress shoes. Where in France is it?
I lol'd, Quietguy Okay, I put on my exhibitionist hat and took some pictures. Would this jacket cause an uproar, and if so, what distinguishes it from a normal blazer-jacket: This is the stripey **** on the tie & shirt I was talking about: I don't know what you call that. edit - the funeral's being arranged as I write, so I've no idea where in france it'll be - I'm guessing Toulouse though. Which is... googles...ugh, southwest. Great. I love the Southern French like I love surgery with power tools.
Really, that looks just fine. The only thing that makes the jacket a bit 'dressier' is the shininess on the lapels and pockets, but that's not a problem for a funeral. Wear your suit and don't let the frenchies scare you
Coming from a Frenchie, that's very reassuring But thanks. Weather forecast is sunny, too - what better time to be back in black?
My sympathies. I'm in the middle of getting my own outfit ready for my Grandfathers funeral tomorrow too. Me = dark smart jacket with a slight pinstripe and matching trousers. It's the only suit I have and this is short notice, but I think it should be fine. I bought a tie similar to yours (from Suit You, perchance?) and a plain white shirt. I also shaved, for the first time in months and got a haircut. Smart black shoes and matching socks, for once. On the other hand, I've seen people turn up to funerals in black shorts, black jacket and black vests.
