Hey well basicly Iv started freshers week Im from the country and Iv never been to a club in my life, anyway I went to one last night and hated it i dont drink n everyone was shouting and just ughh so surfice to say I left pretty early n went to bed. I just feel really out of place now coes all my housemates have gone again tonight n i dunno weather i should just go and put up with it or what? Any advice??
This isn't going to help but I find the more I drink the more I loosen up and enjoy myself, considered taking some drugs? Seriously though, give it another go before you rule off clubbing for good, find another club thats more suited to you. I tend to favor the 80's and indy clubs rather than the ones that attract the chav scum.
I think you should give it another go, relax and let your self loose, that's what night clubs are all about, plus the girl thing . You don't have to get smashed if you drink, just drink socially and i'm sure the effects will get you all excitable
The answer is alcohol, and if that don't work use more alcohol! Or... 1.Find a band you like. 2.Enter moshpit, jump jump JUMP! 3.??? 4.Profit! At least that works for me, as a fairly socially awkward person even without alcohol - the moshpit is a lot more anonymous than the dance floor.
Clubs are good with booze and friends. You won't have the second yet so give it time. In the mean time get totally wasted when you go to one.
If you don't like it then don't bother, it doesn't always appeal to everyone and you'd only be wasting your money. Lots of people have this preconceived notion that it's compulsory for students to go out and get trashed most nights of the week. You might be able to get away with this in your first year, but it'll be a different story in your second and third year when the work and assignments start to pile up. You've got to prioritise; are you there to get an education or to spend most of your time inebriated and turn up late to all your lectures? Remember: you're paying for it so do it the way you want to. By all means have fun, but it's all about the balance between work and play. Personally, I don't much like most clubs or the vomit and urine coated student bars either; I'd rather just go down the pub with my mates most of the time and only go out occasionally for birthdays or whatever. Consequently, I end up spending ~£50-100 less than some people do on alcohol each week, and that really adds up (which I then spend on computer stuff, but that's neither here nor there ). It helps if you meet some like-minded people that you can perhaps share a house with during your course, but I guess you don't have much choice if you're in halls for your first year/semester.
It'll depend entirely on your music scene, if it's more rock orientated, I'm pretty sure every uni has a rocksoc, so have a look round... Freshers week is basically, skanky girls being very promiscuous, lots and lots of drinking, and 7 legged races.. I used to work in pubs when such events were happening... I found a reason to spend most of the organised nights in the cellar... nuff said?
Clubs aren't for everyone, I don't enjoy them at all either and know quite a few people that don't like them. The only way I can see myself enjoying them is getting completely off my face, which is not something I can afford and not something I enjoy doing anymore. As much as people would lead you on to believe, partying in clubs isn't what university social life is all about and it's definitely not exclusive to university students.
Randomquote aside. Going to a club as much like making love to a beautiful woman. You choose one you like the look off. You choose one you like the sound off. You choose one that you can afford. And you choose one that will have you. The point being. Put me in a thrash metal mosh pit and I'd be home tucked up in bed in 1/2 hour. Put me in a trance/dance/techno club and I'm there till the lights go out (or come on... not that I've been clubbing in years) So what music do you like? Go to club/venue that plays your music and you'll feel a dam site happier
I hate clubs! Shitty messy dirty holes. I like myself a good bar with good music and good beers/manly cocktails. If you want to dance you can, if not you can just sit, chill and talk. You don't have to drink either. Just go for the company. That said, after my good music and enough good beers and good cocktails I love myself some horrible clubs for some reason... I can ignore the terrible music, and as long as there is something good at least once in a night, it will be remembered as a good night. But that's not what uni is all about. I enjoyed our nights with the N64, goldeneye or double dash, board games, film night or just listening to good music. Freshers week is just a bit mad, that's all. Everyone goes nuts because their parents can't stop them. Sore heads and STD's will do that in time. One rule to rule them all though: Don't do any injecty/snorty drugs, them's bad for you.
You don't have to go clubbing in fresher's week. I've not been to a club once this week (my freshers) and I haven't missed out. Just find people to chill with in the pub or whatever else and do other things. It works, trust me. It's about people, not locations.
Hi thanks some good advice in there. On the drinking question I cannot drink coes it makes me very ill, I will try a bar on thursday with live bands and see what thats like. Thanks
Don't drink too much. Drink a little and let your body get used to it. If that doesn't work/ you really don't like drinking, don't worry about it, anyone that judges you for that is an assshole.
To be honest I'll actually stick on the side of not drinking (which is quite rare for me but it has been known)... I sometimes actually enjoy myself more, simply due to everyone else is getting overly merry and I can just 'act' drunk and say/do whatever I want and it is just considered normal in the circumstances... Plus you remember all the stupid stuff people did the next day, blackmail material is very very valuable.
what uni you at? i couldn't stand the club's around my uni, i started going for a quiet one at a local. suits me fine.
Yeah don't write all clubs off before you tried a few - being drunk helps but is by no means neccessary. Just keep going out till you find something you like - eg: I have a huge dislike of dance clubs, but when Gatecrasher opened in Birmingham it was a fantastic night out due to who I was with and the atmosphere... plus - you're at uni - first year is ment for socialising! Good luck! RwD
