Yep I agree with BentAnat, people can be in a place where they are not ready to date someone again, whether it is born out of fear of being hurt again, or still having feelings for their ex and not wanting to hurt the new person. And additionally women are a lot smarter than men when it comes to using their brains instead of their emotions. Saying that I broke up with my ex about 1 month before meeting my current gf but I knew she was right and realistically I had already gotten over my feelings for me ex about 3 months prior to breaking up with her. Just go for the kill and see what happens.
Maybe she stumbled upon this thread Seeing that just about every other possible suggestion has been made, how about chucking a small pebble or two at her window until she appears, and then serenading her? I think this would be appropriate: It's almost guaranteed that she'll invite you in and make sweet sweet super happy fun time with you all night long... only ~10% chance she'll call the cops and file a restraining order against you.
Hehe, yeah the hope thing is there all the time, that's why I still wished you luck ;-) In any case, if the girl doesn't want me, I'd still be happier if she "used" me as a rebound instead of landing in the damn friends zone... at least that way, I know I tapped that and got something out of it instead of watching idiot after idiot going out with her and wondering what those idiots have, that I don't... but that's just my opinion... 99% of the time, "nice" guys are the emotional trash cans of hot girls. True story. Still - go for it, better to know what's what than not doing it and asking yourself what would have been if...
Some girls fall for idiots.... The nice guys hour comes when she's nearing thirty and has a kid and the idiot moved on. Suddenly nice guys are great then. . .. ... Wow that's depressing
Yeah, but then hopefully, the nice guy also moved on and found someone nice... or he has the backbone to not be the consolation gift (Trostpreis) for the b****... cause that's all he'd be. Buuuut... I think this thread was intended to motivate someone into hitting on that girl, so damn kid, go for it! ;-)
Didnt really need motivation wanted opinions but then its sort of gone into discussing what could happen and then i think now every facet of getting a girl. I would love the perks of being an asshole but im too nice to do it anyway must dash
Need time means gimme until about the weekend. Then go for it, and if you dont, I'll find her and give her a good sorting out.
Don't become one, play one. Took me a couple of years (well, a decade) to turn my frustration into a well played assholeness if i want to. It worked well...don't ask me why. Some girls were very happy to find I'm a nice guy playing an asshole though, they somehow expect this to be the case with all assholes. Some weren't, the needed to be treated like sh*t all the time, and I just couldn't do that. Women are weird. Anyway this is all ancient history to me, I married one of the first category, and the tricks of the naughties might not apply anymore
Play them at their game. It worked for me. Just in the sense that apparently girls just love it when you don't care about the pursuit. I guess they just like the feeling of nonchalantness..
Quote: "you wanna talk and play games, I'm off. You wanna F..., you know where to find me" Then left the room. (i was seriously pissed off at the time.) It actually worked... I got 10 mins quietness, then a five minute scolding, then she jumped me...ah the good old times Anyway, none of this OT (as nice as it is) is helping, is it.
I can, some girls are gagging for it, and all this "i need time" and "maybe after a few drinks wink wink" etc.. is just because they dont want to be slutty about it. But sometimes they cant be bothered with the games.
So quick update Last night we had pre drinks at ours then went out. My thoughts were that she wasn't interested. Seemed to almost avoid me at times, although I was giving her space and just talking to friends and others. It was at the night club I thought it, as she moved away when dancing and didn't seem to want to chat. [ADDITION] She seemed open with the others... like herself, but with me she seemed reserved. Not sure what to read into that, but just got to hang in there me thinks I'm not really sure what it means, but once again taking it as a negative. She did leave stuff at my house to pick up later, and had a few cheeky texts when we got back but just can't help but feel she isn't interested so on to find the next girl I think
Ah that's a pity. Stay friends, try and go out with her and her mates, get one of them drunk and nail her instead, plenty more fish in the sea.
Tell me you're not getting paranoid or doubting yourself, or some other insecure crap? Maybe I'm way off, but I'm guessing she's a nice girl who just doesn't want to jump into another relationship too quickly, especially not with someone who she thinks highly of. It might be against her principles, or she's scared of what people will think of her, etc. And/or, maybe she doesn't want to kick things off from a nightclub? Seriously, she left stuff at your place, and I think by cheeky texts you mean she's flirting with you via sms? I think it's go time, take her out somewhere, but make it a little more like a date, as in somewhere you two can have some fun, and talk easily. Do you need a written invitation? Are you waiting for her to text you: "I'm hot/wet/horny/etc"
yeah thats exactly what I am waiting for I am not paranoid, neither do I doubt myself I am one cocky, arrogant, cocky SOB but that does not mean she likes me . If she doesn't its good with me, doesn't really make a difference as I will only be where I started, won't be any worse off.
