Girl problems... want your opinion and advice!

Believe me he is a textbook lol ..(and a psychologist...)
You clearly like her a lot, therefore staying away from her isn't an option here, as you will only miss her a lot and probably get depressed. Then again in the long run you might have to let her go sooner or later, as she probably doesn't like hanging around, as you havn't yet gone into a relationship together.
Maybe she wants more and your not giving her that.. thats why she kissed someone else..maybe she isn't as excited as she wants to be. I don't really know what your "seeing" means - not that I want to know all the details - therefore I can't totally comment on what more she wants if you get what I mean...

Ed

 

i've had one of those "safe relationships". sucked. sucked hard. nexxo is right when he says it never goes where you want it to. and remember those two bits of advice everyone keeps repeating....

 

Update:

now i know this is freaky, but last night i went to take your thoughts on board guys, so i said "can we meet up?"... and we went for a walk through a woods... and the guy she kissed phoned her.. not thinking quick on my toes.. i phoned someone else i know likes me (pretty harsh i know) and spend a good 20 mins on the phone to her whilst kat sat and watched, and her change in expression was nice. She didnt like not having the attention, she tried to do everything possible to distract me... including walking back to the car.. and i sat on a log in the woods. lol. Chucking some water over me.. and have a strop

she randomly came out in the car with "where do you want this relationship to go?" totally stunned me.. and my whole idea of telling her.. well actually i wouldnt mind moving on kinda got chucked in the water.
i said i didnt know.. and i would have to think about it. her only words were.... "i wanna be with you and no one else" to which i stayed quiet about. Sat in the car for a bit before i dropped her off.. and then gave her a kiss on the check.. and she went in.

Got home and she phoned me.. and started asking the same kinda questions.. do you like me, do you like me like that.
so i dunno do you think she would be faithful going on what ive said above... i said id think abotu it today..but i was hoping perhaps she woudl forget..

 

She sounds insecure, and plays you off other guys for the attention she craves.

Run a mile.

(Unless you've just done one for Sports Relief, in which case driving it is perfectly acceptable)

 

Is not a problem with u mate its her, u should have asked her.."do u like me" and if she did ask her why she did those thing like that Jamie bloke and the bloke she kissed....u need reasons why she did those things.

I'd say keep her allways at arms lenght as shes a mental one from what ive read.

 

Atanum.. i txt her just a second ago.. saying

"okay 2 questions..... do you like me? and why do you like me? and if you do like me why did you do the stuff with the other guys?"

think i should just email her a link to this forum?

 

Ditch the bitch.

 

This may sound random but she didn't go to the Uni of Hertfordshire did she?

 

QFT

Even with regards to the update, definately. Either it's one of those safe relationship things Nexxo described or at least she's a total attention whore.

 

I came across a similar thing in a book, but it turned out the girl was an assassin for some terrorist group and the 'safe relationship' was cover. So watch it.

 

My friend has had this kinda relationship but a bit worse for the last 4 years.

He is happy at times but mostly unhappy.

My advice, which is grim, is that it sounds like a train ride waiting to crash. It just depends how long you want to ride for?

No pun intended

 

Sounds to me like you have second thoughts now... Look, a relationship can only be based on total trust. If you have to ask yourself: "But will she be faithful?" it is already doomed to failure.

All this game playing won't help at all. Just be open and honest and say to her what you think/feel:

If you can both agree to each other's ground rules, make a go of it. If you can't however, the relationship will not work.

 

Mate she's never gonna stick with you if you can't even count questions.

AH

 

lol funny ******
well im gunna totally mess stuff up now.. im going to email her this thread.. and she can make of it what she will.
Maybe she can then understand that perhaps i do care, and i do want to be with her but i aint prepared to be messed around?
who knows.. failing that if it all goes pear shaped... then theres plenty more fish in the sea, and if she catches me.. it was nice knowing you guys.. and i love you all... Lmao!

 

NO! DON'T E-MAIL HER THIS THREAD, YOU IDIOT! The last thing she will want is to know that you discussed your intimate relationship with her, with 26000 strangers on a geek website!

 

LOL this thread is so funny.

 

oops.. sorry nexxo.. too late..

whats done is done.. and if she doesnt speak to me again.. then she obv doesnt understand...

lol geek website eh??

and thats 26000 people who have given me advice and guidence which i wouldnt have now. if i didnt care for her.. i wouldnt be worrying this much now would i??

i would say id let you know the outcome.. but i dont think theres much point.. we all know whats going to happen now anyway......

 

No offense mate, but your a banana.

She is gonna flip if she thinks you haven't been thinking your own feelings.

Relationships are something you have to decide on yourself, not getting a tech website to help with.

 

I needed to be in this thread.

 

no no.. i have been thinking my own feelings.. and anything i have ever said has been me.. no one else..

yeh relationships are somethign you have to decide on your own.. granted yes i know that. but asking advice is something i need every now and again.

cheers for you help anyway fellas... can a mod close whenever they fancy it?