So my adopted brother and I horse trade computer hardware often enough. This is just a thing with us. But this time he got $715 and change in new parts, including everything but my hardline bending setup (reservoir,fittings,plugs,PETG tubing) and hasn't paid me a dime. He "gave" me a TJ07 that has all its screws rusted an enough dents and scars to necessitate powder coating, after I replace all its innards at my cost. I also "received A BIX 4x120 that was so thoroughly taped down the damned side came off. I can hammer the folded side out and sell it as it never lost seal but I don't think this is fair at all. He's still got me doing his sleeving and wiring, which is much harder after the stroke. This is my brother practically, but I'm not feeling very brotherly right now. Wish I hadn't modded all my other 290xs so I could just sell off and recoup. Just needed to blow off steam. Think I'll talk with our mother.
Tell your parents, no matter your age, parents sort everything! I'm 33 and my sister in law to be (who works at same place) was moaning to my mom other day about my attitude in work, my mom then wanted my side of the story! WTF Good luck
If it is a repeat occurrence then stop doing work for him (sleeving and wiring). If he asks why, say you can't due to your stroke. If he keeps doing such things to you then he's a jerk and you should just be civil and no more work for him unless you get proper payment first. Hope your stroke recovery is going well.
I too still rely on the parents to sort things when it all gets out of hand. It's not fair what has happened, and I would be furious too. It's not a small sum of money either. I hope you're recovering well and that you're on the path of being back to good health.
it's family, personally I would cut my losses and not make any more trades with him any more. Tell him that you can't do the sleeving because of your stroke and be done with it.
I have a strict policy of not loaning or selling anything to family unless I'm willing to let it turn into a gift. It's the only way to not have something bad happen that could jeopardize your relationship. I'm not sure what your relationship is with your brother, so I'm not sure what approach to take in talking with him about this, but . . . If it's going to bother you for a long time and do permanent damage to your relationship, I'd talk to him about it. Try and bring it up in a way where he doesn't feel the need to get defensive, and don't go venting to other people about it behind his back. If you aren't talking to someone (other than your brother) looking for advice/a solution, then don't talk to them about it. He may not be at all aware of your feelings and if it gets back to him he could wonder who else knows and have his feelings hurt or be embarrassed. He may not have any idea, and telling others before talking to him usually only makes this sort of thing worse (people choose sides). Have some idea of what you want to say and what would make it right. After thinking about it, letting him know how you feel about it may be enough for you to feel better about it. If that's not enough, then come up with some other plan that will make it fairly easy for him to make things right, but won't prolong the ordeal (like a six month payment plan where he could miss payments, making things worse). Again, I don't know your brother so I don't know how easy any of this would be or if bringing it up at all would make him flip-out, overreact, be offended, etc.. Good luck, Kayin.
Family is always a pain when it comes to selling/buying/trading - as such I generally try and avoid it. For instance - sister was going on holiday, had just got a new camera, but it came with a really small card. We had one spare (we had bought three for our holiday but only used two), so offered it at cost (~£25 if I remember correctly). She said yes, then somehow I ended up giving it to my Dad for a £10. I mean WTF.
I simply don't lend anything to family unless, as d_stilgar says, I don't mind it turning into a 'gift'. It is always harder to ask for something back, especially money, from family. And I know my brothers wouldn't pay anything back, not in a reasonable time frame anyway. Hilarious! Did you sort your attitude at work then? lol So your Dad is a better haggler?
