That's an interesting side of it I'd not thought of: part of the masculine package, which I wouldn't call toxic or negative in itself, is that we tend to thrive on, pride ourselves on, and get recognition for our ability to fix things ourselves. The more things you can do it for, the better. I myself really enjoy this process and try to do as much as possible myself. And it certainly is possible to do some emotional maintenance yourself; there are levels of problem that you can self-diagnose and take steps to remedy, with the self-awareness and knowing the right habits and strategies. (CBT, as others have noted, is all about teaching people how to do this.) But there are also problems on a scale where this just can't work; once the machine is past a certain amount of broken, it can no longer function well enough to repair itself, and you're stuck. You can't do a top end rebuild solo at the roadside, and you can't solve severe depression or panic attacks just by thinking about it. You need extra hands. @mrlongbeard you're certainly right about going through work for it, I've always found that concept baffling - partly because, as a business owner, the idea of being held responsible for fixing my workers' mental health problems seems like an imposition (unless my work envionrment specifically caused the problems), and partly because, as you say, as an employee I'd feel like it's none of their damn business and nothing to trust them with. Compounded onto this, the only free alternative - the NHS' mental healthcare - kinda sucks. So there's a class element to it. If you have enough disposable income, you can pay for a therapist or counsellor (idk wtf the difference is). If you're broke, you're more likely to have mental health issues and to be immediately impacted by them, but you're also less likely to be able to get good help.