Rant My girl cheated!

WTF?!?!? OK here's the deal I been steady with a girl for 5 months. Last week things were off. She got a text Wednesday from a guy friend telling her he would make it up to her Friday when they were alone. I had plans Friday with my girl! She seen I read the text and flipped!!! Then went romantic and tried to fix things. That nite when I left we were at the point where she didn't know what she wanted. Thursday she wouldn't see me. Friday she wouldn't talk. Friday nite she texted me she seen this guy and it seamed "right" and she wanted to get to know both of us!

Well I got her to answer the phone and she broke up with me said they just kissed and cuddled but she didn't know who she wanted. I was like OMG WTF?!?!? Well I meet up with her Saturday and she and I went to her ex that she still cares for and had a group therapy session. He told her to tell me what happened between her and Tyler. She couldn't she fell apart and literally ran away. As I was taking her home she cried and told me I'd never forgive her not for this. She came clean they had a quickly


To make things worse he DIDNT use a condom and shes off of the pill. He did cum in her! I pulled the car over got out and fell to the ground and puked. I got back in and she said thats why she broke up with me she loves me but its over now she may be pregnant she just wants to die. I took her home and she invited me in. She asked me to hold her I did. Then one thing led to the next and we fooled around and she told me to never let her go! She gave me the most amazing kisses I have ever received. Then when it was time to leave she couldn't kiss me good nite or hug me or even look me in the eyes.!


Today (Sunday) I asked to see her she said IDK then told me to come down then she wouldn't come out or let me in. 45 mins latter she came out and we went to a privet spot to talk. She told me she was done with me and Tyler she called her grandparents they got her a plan ticket she was moving back to her grands. I was like wtf! She said she ruined her life with a one nite stand it was all over! She needed a fresh start. I was like fine what ever. Then she said (get this!) "and its not even yours" "I wish it was I love you " WTF?!??! You still love me you broke up with me you destroyed my heart and now you tell me you wished it was mine! She started talking about suicide and I lost it and called her ex. He came down and talked to her she calmed down and she told him (supposedly he told me this ) That she could never love me and it was over now. I got in my car with her and didn't talk. I was taking her home. She just said look at me. I said what you told your ex you never loved me wtf?!/!/! She said no no I do I do love you. She was very calm consider what was going on and she seamed sincere. I told her it was over and said.


"My mother once told me every person you meat every friend ever BF every GF you spend time with will always be a part of you. They shape who you are and you will always have a part of them in you no matter what. I told her she will always have a part of me with her and I went on about the times we shared and that she should remember them. I told her she has my number if she ever needs any thing she can call. She fell apart and told me shes right here and shes not going anywhere. She said she screwed up and wants me wants us. Went on about a future with me and not losing what we have.


SHE ****ING DUMPED ME!!!!


So I was like wtf you ended us you may be pregnant with another's baby and I still wanted to be with you but you told me a hour ago you were ending us and never wanted to see any of us again. Now that I say were done you ****ing want me again. So I got a stick and shes going to pee on it in 5 days. She curled up on the couch with me today and she looked at me with loving eyes and I just don't know if I can do this with her. She asked if I would ever have sex again with her. I CANT EVEN TOUCH HER BODY!!!!!!! I just want to puke!


But... The girl knows she screwed up and shes my first every thing I'm 24 now and shes 18 and amazing in her own way and she has a body and well shes amazing. So IDK...


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Ouch man.
It looks to me as she really doesn't know what she wants in life. I would advise to stay clear. There are many girls with great bodies, but it is in the mind that it counts. If you have a girl that is stable, things will be a bit better when it does break apart. I know this because it happened to me this night about 4 hours ago.

 

The best thing emotionally you can do for yourself, and her is just to run.

End contact. Period.

The more you or her try to "save" this the worse it will be. Just trust me.

I've had two women cheat on me now, in strangely similar circumstances to your own story, and I took them each back, and tried to patch things up. But a month or two into it, and the feelings of regret, mistrust, and insecurity came flooding back.

I realised that once somebody has broken your trust for them in such a horrible way, you will never be able to have the same form of relationship with them again.

Take your shattered heart and head and run.

You will heal.

 

Yikes. My advice - you should take a week to evaluate and think about things on your own time without distraction or interference.

 

I've gotta agree with Malf on this - as much as the situation sucks, it sounds like she has a lot of serious emotional issues and you'll be better off putting this behind you as best you can. It'd be one thing if the two of you had been going out for years or were married, but those kinds of problems only five months in are really just asking for more insanity later on.

 

Sucks to hear about your situation bud.

I was in a similar situation, just she didn't try to move out, but everything was more or less the same. I tried to patch things up and stuff but it just didn't work.

You're probably going to do your own thing either way, but try to separate yourself from her, clear your mind, relax, take a breath, and think about you, what you want, where you want to go in life, and how the situation can affect that vision of your life. If it's negative, then consider parting ways, if it's positive.. well.. make the best of it.

Either way though, prepare yourself for a rough road. But if she was able to cheat once, and be silly enough to have sex without a condom, then I'm not sure that even if you do salvage a new relationship with her, that she'll stay true to you and won't do some stupid **** again.

General rule of thumb I follow is, if the person managed to do it once, they can easily manage to do it again and again and again and again, because as long as they have a fall-back support, they're not actually in total **** and don't really have top change how they are, only temporarily to make things better.

 

Ah this brings back memories...

Having had quite a lot of what you said find its way into my life too.. clear and simple advice.

Cut and run.

It's gonna be a complete FU for a while and you're probably gonna wanna start thinking about some serious "therapeutic alcohol use" and as easy as it is to say sitting in my shoes having been there and got the t-shirt. You will move on, yeah you got yourself pretty well screwed over but obviously you managed to pick a skank out of the pot this time.

Only thing I do suggest is getting any physical stuff of yours that she has possession of back really quick and if you feel like it, take her for every goddamn thing you can. Then LEAVE.

(oh and for the love of relix don't have some kinda "meaningless breakup sex"... doesn't work you actually feel worse.. plus it means she could stir **** up if she (or the new dude) is vindictive and say that you forced yourself on her)



People may have guessed that I have a pretty low opinion of evil cheating skanky whores.

 

here's the truth,Your "blind with infatuation", she doesn't share the sames feeling as you, I mean how could If she was able to (behind your back, btw) meet another guy, GET CAUGHT still go out with the man and then **** him. She's just latching on to you while she is waiting for the next best thing to come along, by forgiving her accepting the fact that you are her bitch. She's probably done this before, and she'll probably do it again.

 

Yeah it does seem like she might like you enough for an occasional screw, spend time with etc... but she's just keeping you like a little puppy on a bit of string. Just in case whatever guy she's got on the side doesn't work out.


You're insurance so she doesn't have to be on her own.

 

Exactly.. i.e. she's using you.

 

Hey, can I help it if she wants a real man?

 

" We gotta get out of this place!
If it's the last thing we ever do ...
We gotta get out of this place,
'cause girl, there's a better life ... for me and you "

We Gotta Get out of This Place - The Animals. Summs up what you need to do nicely me thinks.

 

Sod 'er. Let her go sort herself out, find someone else.

 

Myth, meet Madam Palm and her five finger daughters. She will always be your friend for some good times.

 

While it may sound harsh the best thing to do is walk away. I spent 3 years in a relationship like that, Gave her everything she ever wanted, moved in with me, i even got her a job where i worked, It still wasnt enough. The best thing i ever did was let her go.

 

Hey.....If you know her too, then she must be cheating on me!!!!!1111

Seriously, myth, get a grip man. Be an adult about this and move on.

 

Advice from a girl that's been said above: Move on. It's not going to repair itself, it's not going to get better. You're young -- believe it or not, you'll find someone even better. Although, you'll always have a soft spot in your heart for your first.

 

Leave and don't look back.

 

+1... I learned that the hard way... As Bindi says madam palm is definitely the way forward

 

lol @all the cut and run comments..

But yeah, seriously, do.

Run fast, run far, and never look back.

It may not be easy, but it is by far the best option in the long run.