Simon make sure you keep records of everything that happens even the small things for evidence in court if you get text messages from her keep them don't delete anything connected with all this it may help you in court my prayers are with you matey stay strong for not only yourself but for your daughter as well
Anybody would be an emotional wreck in your shoes, but you must try to portray an image of mental/emotional stability in order to maximize your chances of gaining custody of your kids. Don't, in an emotional plea, mention that you nearly drove your truck off a bridge, for example. That would not do you any favors. I really hope it works out for you. I raged so hard when I read your post, people can be cruel
Seriously, just stop. This isn't the right thread to get into a discussion about the merits or otherwise of anti-depressant medication.
For those wondering why the thread got a little weird, the debate about drugs has been moved to its own little engagement as it's not really helpful to T_G to keep that in here...
care to explain why you moved my original post advising exercise? ..while leaving other comments on the drug debate?
@ tuk ^ PM the mods mate - keep TG's thread on topic! @Simon, I've been on fluoxetine twice now and I really benefited from it (despite succumbing to drug-induced hepatitis the second time round, but that's not common!). I really hope the first few weeks pass quickly; you really will start to feel a lot better if you can stick it out.
Because it is the post that started the other debate. It has to travel to the new thread along with the posts that followed to give context to the debate. Now, I realise that you advice was well-meant, but in the end this thread is about T_G, not about you (which is what bawjaws pointed out also). So please let it drop and move on.
If the mods wanted this in pm they would have pm'd me surely? & maybe a less public display of chopping up the thread to make it look like I've started a shitfest when all I'v done is offer good advice. If Krikkit really believes what he wrote he would have moved all the posts discussing the relative merits of drug treatments ...including the post I'm replying to now.
I'm afraid this is the reason why I'll never get married, have a family yes, married no. Although without the malicious intent my mother did a similar thing to my father. I think this sort of thing is very serious and popular there's even an album written about it called Any Man in America by Blue October...
Best of luck buddy. Don't let her take you for a ride. Fight her tooth and nail, if for nothing else, do it for your daughter. As it's been said before, you've got all of us at bit-tech behind you.
I know what you're saying but just to put the record straight legally her adultery has nothing whatsoever to do with sale or division of property, even if in some cases it should.
You do wonder if she is getting manipulated by this Jason for a while and he's telling her what to do? Or is she just a psycho bitch? What it sounds to me is she's played you via fraud
I knew you were going through a bad time, but I am pleased to see you back here, I was hoping you were doing OK, or at least coping. Having had a friend go through a bad time in his life, I would say it is important to have someone impartial to be able to confide in. I'm not talking about the rag-tag bunch of miscreants that reside here on BT either, sure we are all here for you, to an virtual extent anyway, but a real life face to face over a coffee. Someone that will listen to everything and then offer support but not advice. I was the above for my friend, he has since told me that it helped him cope and get through things knowing there was someone there who he didn't want to "let down" and UST to stop himself drowning in his own thoughts. Take it easy and try to not to get too absorbed in your own thoughts. DB.
Sorry to hear about your terrible situation. I would assume by her conduct so far she might have a few other dirty tricks up her sleeve. Make sure any contact is done with a 3rd party present or better yet via a lawyer. As others have said, Keep notes about EVERYTHING, even little details. Material things can be replaced, And possibly her Achilles heel is the material things she has made a grab for, They might bring her misfortune. If any of her misfortunes affects your daughter, You must be ready to step in legally and do the right thing. She sounds like she has really fleeced you bud, and worse she has thought about it first, As my mate with a similar situation said "She's a bloody snake with tits". Rather fitting phrase for such horrible actions. Good luck, keep yer chin up
Crap, that is a horrible situation. That letter really made me feel for you Like Bindi says make sure you follow it up as it sounds like she's trying to make things as difficult as possible. It will be a lot easier to back yourself up now rather than waiting too long and being further backed into a corner. I'm no expert but I would request she makes any demands or even communication in writing, it will save you getting caught out or might trip her up further down the line if she tries to use false information or twist the truth. **Sorry rambling ahead, feel free to skip** Hopefully something useful in there and not just gibberish, thought spilling out of my head onto the keyboard . I've had depression and found medication helped for a bit (few months) but did more harm after a longer period of time. I felt on a high as such to start with for the first few months then after 6+ months I found myself lacking in emotion positive or negative and all I was getting from it was the side effects (which weren't nice). I would use the medication as a tool to get things started, but by far the most useful thing is talking to people, friends\family (BT Forum) and also a professional. It makes a huge difference. It is a mindset you've been forced into and natural for such a tough time. My revelation as such was when I decided to ditch the medication and start re-processing negative thoughts, is this worth feeling this bad over, is worrying going to fix it, what can I do?. Depression for me started last year or so at school, went through college and come to a breaking point at Uni. Ruined my GCSE's, college and made me quite Uni and I couldn't work for a couple of years (I didn't know it was depression to start with). I manged to turn it around in about a month after the "revelation" and get back into work. I've not had any issues since (about 8 years) but I still should see someone to help build my confidence and get some natural drive back. Sorry to drone on about the depression element of your scenario but it is a hole which can get a lot deeper the longer it's not addressed, I would probably also see an occupational therapist to help with getting back into work. I would say work is a good way of refocusing your thoughts and I found it soul destroying being stuck at home useless and the lack of routine made things a lot worse. I would really think about asking if you could even go part time rather than leaving all together but maybe have some time off to get yourself in a better place. If you don't go back to your job maybe even do some easy part time volunteer work, just to keep that routine and structure, you should find it easier to get back into full time when you're ready (I wish I took that advice). EDIT: And exercise made a huge difference to how I felt, riding my bike was another savior. **End of rambling.
