Rant On the train...

In response to crazy train lady: The appropriate response would be: "oh shut up you silly bint and get on the bloody train".

As for all the other things regarding people not saying thankyou anymore, give the whole "have a nice day" thing a try, I know everyone thinks that American's are mad for saying it (well they do in the uk at least...on the whole) but you should see how the people who have just served you actually smile when you say it, it's really nice.

 

I dunno, I'm with Lorquis on this one. I am a complete freak-magnet. If there is a nut-job within 5 miles they will sniff me out. My friends love it cos on nights out the weirdos always find me and my mates can walk off leaving some tramp quoting poetry at me and offering me spam (that has actually happened by the way).

antiHero, I was in a similar situation once with a boyfriend knocking 7-shades out of me by a pub. A group of lads across the road saw what was happening and shouted out to see if I was OK, the boyfriend shouted "she's fine!" and they said "ok" and walked off leaving me to hit! [Funnily enough this X is now one of my best mates, I don't want people thinking he was a proper wife-beater, I think it was just the 2 of us were very violent at that time in our lives and getting together was a disaster waiting to happen. We're so much more chilled these days ]

 

What's "a proper wife-beater" would that be 8 or more shades maybe?

 

In her position I would never want to speak to him again. Why so many women put up with abusive blokes is beyond me. There are enough people in the world you don't need to put up with the nasty ones.

 

I knew this would happen. I am not excusing what he did, merely pointing out that he hasn't grown up to be a wife-basher. It was only with me, I did indeed kick him in the face in a club and break his nose once (wearing para boots... ouchy) so I was not an innocent damsel. It was just a pairing up of people that should never have happened. We did have a laugh, but it was at great cost to both our safety and mental health. Being mates is much better as the closest we get to a fight now is blocking each other on MSN for a few hours

I was pretty disgusted those lads didn't attempt to help me out though

 

Yes can someone please explain this one to me. Regardless of the abusiveness, why are the majority of women drawn to men that don't treat them well enough (I don't mean beating the crap out of them here, i just mean in general, you know, guys that don't make an effort, are rude, spend more time with their mates etc etc).

 

My thoughts exactly...

 

I imagine it's for exactly the same reason so many decent blokes end up with controlling little whores. Low self-esteem.

 

So your saying you can actually beat some sense into people. Thought that was an old wives tale.

 

Don't take it the wrong way, but you two sound like the type of couple that walk around at night looking for people to mug, then fight each over over who gets to keep the jewelry or watch. I hope she doesn't take it the wrong way, i don't want hex coming after me to kick my ass

 

/pictures opening scene from pulp fiction.

 

My little brother walked in on our Mum's boyfriend beating our Mum up over Christmas. Apparently it had been going on for ages. As soon as my brother saw it happening though he (now all grown up and gangly - which makes me feel old) threw the guy out into the street and gave him a good kick. Now my mum has snapped out of it (allowing the hitting to happen) but wont get him arrested for fear that my brother will end up in jail to for kicking the guy.

Great system of fear we have going isn't it.

 

Same image I got.

 

Why? and if it is, why should people care?

Oh! so that's why all the weirdos come and talk to me? (I have pretty normal hair). I had a long conversation with a drink one day, and later the same week i talked to a guy that was amazed over how many buses there were in this city. (Well, you are in a bus terminal, what do you expect?!)

I think there is a connection here. I think people that work in retail tend to be more friendly as a customer as well. They normall know how litte it helps to be angry at people in a shop.

I have wondered about these cases myself. Somebody I know had a violent boyfriend for a few years. Everybody kept telling her to leave him, but she refused because of the fear of being alone. I though being alone was better than being abused. Guess I'm wrong...

"I love you too honeybunny"
"Everybody be cool, this is a robbery!!"

I love that scene!

 

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Codependents attract abusers like a flame attracts moths. The core reason is low self esteem, but the specific mechanism is that people tend to seek a partner who reinforces their image of themselves. If you believe that you are worthless and undeserving of love (and I think that's a majority of people) you tend to find someone who will treat you that way.

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Yep, people are retarded.

 

There's all sorts of reasons as to why women would stay in abusive relationships.

Repercussions. Once he finds out you're gone there's fear that he'll come after you and give you a beating that you wont get up from.
Familiarity. If it's something you're used to, then being OUT of one might be outside the comfort zone. Some people do have that "self destruct" button too.

What about men in abusive relationships too? Women can be just as violent and controlling.
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You know that's true. I said "Merry Christmas" to the bus driver on Christmas Eve and he gave me the nicest smile and said "Thank you! Merry Christmas to you too!" and it sounded so genuine and he gave me the nicest smile.

I think people really do underestimate the power of manners and genuine concern. I was on my way to eastern victoria when I was about 14 to see my mother and I lost my purse on the way in. Thankfully my train ticket was in my bag, but I had no money to get dinner with, no ATM card to get money out with and it was a 4 hour train ride. Anyway, I was crying (middle of a packed train full of people - how embarrasing) and anyway, the couple opposite me asked what was wrong and I told them, anyway, they got off about an hour later and they gave me $10 so I could get some dinner. I didn't even know their name. But that's something that's certainly stood out in my mind.

 

I think its strange when strangers start talking about their lives really detailed to absolute strangers. Like on the bus he was saying how he paid for his wifes rehab, then left her after he found more needles nder the bed or something? but like shouting it accross for the whole bus to hear haha!

 

I actually work in asda (yay). Every day i am amazed by people who think its fine to be incredibly rude to people working there. People feel that they can shout at me because we dont have something in stock. A classic case was when a woman had phoned the previous day to find out if we had a product in stock, she then turn up a day later to find that we had sold out by then (it was xmas) and proceded to scream insults at me for 10mins.
Another thing people do is run their trolleys into me, then give me evil looks because i didnt magically move out of their way! Perhaps they dont realise that the pallet im pulling weighs a little over 400kg and that stopping fast doesnt really happen. anyway.... i really should stop now. I could go on for hours but it depreses me!

 

The funniest thing happened to me at the bus station about 8 years ago:
I had just got off the bus after a 5 hour journey from Heathrow to Exeter bus station (before that I was on a plane from Vancouver for 10 hours - to top it off I was sat next to some d**khead) waiting for my Mum to pick me up from the station. We lived about 15 miles from the Exeter, so it shouldn't of taken her too long. But it bloody did, I was waiting for one and a half hours. After that stupidly long journey, I was tired and hacked off.
And because I too attract weirdos this husband and wife tramp-duo came and sat next to me and started talking to me like I knew them. I had to be polite (I often am in those situations) and because of this everybody in the station was looking at me.
After about 20 minutes the guy thought I was hitting on his tramp of a wife, because she was asking about my holiday (before you ask she had no teeth, was 50 and stunk of piss and beer). He started shouting, saying I can't have her etc. Then I calmed him down, he wanted to shake my hand, I had to to shut him up. Then he got up and went looking for *** butts on the floor of the station, leaving his wife. She then put her hands in her head and p**sed herself! I then got up and walked out of the station.
Very embarrassing for a 17 year old! After that I learnt to be less than polite to people like that.