i think you missed my point, forums are a great place to gain infomation on technology or anything else, however personal skills isn't wise. Its like reading all the theory behind swimming then jumping into the ocean expecting to be able to instantly swim. However there are pleanty more fish in the sea....
I have to say, this is a really good thread. I hope the advice is taken. On the flip side, from my expericence you can either learn from the experience, or listen and avoid traps from those in the know. A great idea is to try a bit of both. It's ok to get hurt, actually for a healthy person is good to get a litte hurt and not let it get in your way, then you'll be coming closer to know what it is you actually really want/ should from a girl and you'll know what you can give and not need to give her. Loving the above pic!
Relationships are hardly that life and death. If the guy was asking about going to seduce a women, and if he failed she would stab him to death, how does he get her to love him? Then yeah I agree it's stupid to ask on an internets forum. However here, he either gets with the girl or she tells him to do one, I know he is a bit shy and the latter maybe a big blow to what little confidence he has, but as you say, there are plenty more fish in the sea.... edit: also maybe posting here and the advice given by people may be the stimulus he needs to do something about the situation, can't we attempt to help all fellow g33ks and nerds at least try and get the girl, rather than just tossing themselves off everynight edit2: be less negative Burnout
I was positive on the first page... I vote take a weeks hoilday soon, and visit as many coffee shops during your days off, eventually you'll bump into someone, on more than one day. And the bonus is you dont work with them, if it all goes wrong no worries you'll never see them again. Even if there married or in a relationship they might have a simular friend in your sitution. DONT PICK UP DRUNK GALS AT THE BAR! Thats the only golden rule to life!
Solid advice links: http://mingle2.com/dating/phases http://mingle2.com/blog/view/bad-kissers I think it would be well placed to make a sticky, something along the lines of "Relationships for pc modders"
LOL@mingle @burnout - I disagree that it's a bad idea to ask for advice like this on an online forum (especially at bit-tech)... forums are made up of people, usually like-minded and to a certain degree similar. BT is a pretty supportive/safe place to put yourself out there, and while this isn't the hangout for hot girls we want to date (usually) we can all offer a bit of our own life experience to help a brother out. It is also a great place to ask for advice on hardware and modding techniques I think we can agree Cyril is asking for advice on how to make it work out with the girl of his dreams, and not how to get laid at a bar. There may be a difference of opinion on how valid we are as a pool of people to provide that advice, but I'm glad to see the post, and the community advice. Cyril, we're all rooting for you, and want you to be the best person you can be, and have a lovely relationship with the best person you can find for yourself. Negativity breeds negativity in one of those downward spiraling self-fulfilling prophecy things, so avoid that as much as possible. Keep telling yourself about your positive aspects and why a woman would WIN to be with you, and the rest will fall into place. I'm surprised no one's mentioned online dating (where you actually meet in real life)... at least as practice (aka confidence boosting) if not actually finding the one.... what kind of nerds are you!?!
Bah rubbish, I picked up the love of life when she was a drunk gal at a bar. difference there was she wasn't a stranger but a friend of a friend. so rule should be "Don't pick up Unknown drunk girls at bars. " and the main rule should still be don't dip your pen in the company ink.
Yeah, but they are a foreboding sign of Nexxo's law: "As a forum thread continues, the probablility of a lolcats picture being posted approaches 1" QED:
Oh, be fair, even Moss gets laid once, maybe? [ramlematic] Relationship advice and the internet is like me and my parents - intrinsicaly linked, but never really related. By that I mean there are oodles of these threads on any largeish forum in every language under then sun, but they never end happily. Whilst the net is a great development in the history of mankind, it should never be used for medical/relationship advice, If you have an issue, and it cannot logically be solved, a professional should be consulted, someone who can interpret your horrified/loved-up ramblings, turn them into coherent thought, and enable you to act on your now clarified thoughts. [/ramblematic] Joe
strangely this thread has helped me... thanks. NO i am not taking this as the ultimate truth, i am taking this as a guideline edit: by the way, TALK TO THE WOMAN!!!
Doubt this will help much... I've always thought two really shy people in a relationship can lead to disaster.. In the same way two really extrovert people will lead to disaster. I think you need somebody who’ll take the reins more, show you have to come out of your shell a bit. That’s just my opinion though.
