Ok, so usually I would never put a question like this to a community of people I don't know in person, but it is important that I get impartial advice on this matter. So I've been with my girlfriend for over two years now. We're engaged, we've got our own flat (rented) and a seven month old baby, in that order. Lately it's becoming so bad that I'm seriously considering leaving her, but because we have a child together, I really don't know where I stand. Maybe I should explain. I could list quite a few reasons why I don't feel I can stay with her, but I'll try to keep it relevant. Now I know that I'm not perfect, and I can wind her up a fair bit sometimes, but there are times where I'm driven to madness. She doesn't seem to have any respect for our bank balance, we don't have well paying jobs, and we're trying to save, but she keeps on spending money and we've nearly been in the red a few times. I tend to have some financial discipline, so even on a crap wage, I can save a decent amount. She just pisses hers up the wall most of the time. She does buy me nice things, and I'm extremely grateful for them, but I'd rather I saved up for them, instead of her buying them in January, the slowest month of the year. It seriously puts our cashflow down the creek and I can't approach her about it because I get my head bitten off. Another thing is that she doesn't seem to understand the concept of 'working to pay bills'. I'm quite happy to go out and work all hours to bring back the money, but she doesn't seem to care. She'll complain at me if I don't have enough hours one week, but when I approached my boss and told her I needed more hours, she said I should work night shifts, which I agreed to. So now my girlfriend is complaining about me always being at work (only about 38 hours p/w mind). Because of the shift pattern I work now, I don't usually hit the sack until about 3am, and I'm still expected to rise and shine at about 8am, when my daughter wakes up. Any resistance and I get the lecture that I don't care about our daughter and that I'm lazy. She's actually in bed now, I've had to get up after about 5 hours sleep and she's staying in because she's ill (the same illness that I had for the past week, but never justified me getting a lay-in after a night shift, might I add). All of this is driving me mad, and I'm getting so stressed lately, work doesn't help, and neither does our daughter, but she's just a baby. Case in point: my girlfriend used to work saturdays and I would look after the baby. It was during those times that I felt my happiest. My day had a sense of structure, I got housework done, baby would still winge sometimes, but it never bothered me even a fraction compared to when my gf is at home for some reason. Since I got with her (well, after a few months anyway) my patience has just grinded down to nearly nothing and I don't know what to do. We have argurments regularly and we usually make up, usually by me apologising, before having another arguement a day or two later. I'm concerned that it's projecting on our daughter. Do I stay with her, or do I just go? I have every intention of being involved in my daughters life, and I'll pay my way if necessary. But I can't stay under the same roof with my gf anymore. I'd like some honest opinions, I'm not afraid to be told I'm being stupid. Thanks for reading.