Nonsense. If they're single you have to be the nicest guy in the whole world, which is hard. If they have a boyfriend you just have to be nicer than some random guy. And that's easy. The notion that you're stealing is absurd. Surely she's capable if understanding the situation and making up her own mind. She's upgrading, you can't steal someone who has free will. Unless you either kidnap them or they really aren't compos mentis, either way you're doing something wrong. Caveats: Don't steal from anyone you've ever met, and don't be surprised if she leaves you for an upgrade down the line. She's already done it at least once.