Hey all, First thing to say: this is being posted by drunk me, and might be edited by sober me tomorrow. OK so I had a sucky night tonight because someone acted way out of line towards me and essentially ruined my evening (I can be a sensitive little petal sometimes, and if people are rude to me it gets to me a lot). Basically I wandered up to this guy Jim and my housemate and very close friend, Bob, who were chatting. "Hey guys" said I. "Hey Yogi" said Bob. "..." said Jim. "Um, hi Jim?" said I. Still nothing. Bob says "Um, Jim, why are you ignoring Yogi?", and Jim responds "I haven't been talking to that **** for a while now and if you want to talk to me you're gonna have to come over here away from him". Of course, that is a ridiculously uncool thing to say. Bob of course refuses to do so and tells Jim in no uncertain terms to get ****ed. Jim goes off and talks to other people. At this point I, and Bob, are completely speechless. Later on Bob goes to talk to Jim and Jim explains that he is still upset about the fact that I pulled a girl he liked 2 years ago. I should stress, not a girl he was going out with, a girl he LIKED. Not only this, but the girl was also pulling a lot of other guys while leading him on and pretending he had a chance. He refused to talk to me for about six months and then I managed to convince him to get over it (although I didn't feel I was particularly in the wrong as we're not particularly good friends, I wanted to make things cool between us), but apparently he decided he was upset about it again and was just waiting for me to realise this (we don't see each other a lot). So anyway: OBVIOUSLY this guy is an enormous douche, and he's gone down in a lot of people's estimation after the way he acted tonight. I don't care about his friendship, he's a racist douche anyway, but I don't like having enemies and I like to be able to be civil towards people and receive civil responses. The way I see it I have the following options (feel free to suggest more): a) Knock him the **** out - he needs to be taught a lesson that he can't speak to people in the way that he did without repurcussions. This option obviously is tempting at this point, but I'm not a violent man so it's unlikely. b) Confront him: say something along the lines of "I don't care about whatever trivial little problem you have with me, I'm not interested in your friendship but don't you ever dare speak to me like that again." c) Just forget it - he's probably already learned his lesson by trying to embarass me in front of the people he chose to do it in front of - he tried to get Bob (and various other people, later) to side with him and they all told him to **** off, and all the while I'm saying to everyone "his problem is with me, you don't need to take sides" and they're saying "no, as far as we are concerned he is now a dick. it's not up to you - we're taking sides and we're on yours". Feel free to suggest more AH NB All names except mine have been changed.
Well just to point out one thing which I am kinda sure is in the rules, but this is more livejournal/myspack/virb land... Now that's done with.. It does seem like you've made your choice already dude... by the virtue of that you seriously overexplained choice C) The guy's obviously got a healthy dose of stick surpository... if he can't get over some chick ghosting him that's his problem. Besides it's pretty obvious you're mates aren't arseholes, why else would they have your back. Forget about it. Some people aren't worth getting your short and curlies perm'd out of shape.. and those people are the type that are so self destructive that if they aren't dicks their world will come crashing in on them. Don't ignore him, but don't give him the pleasure of you trying to talk to him... if he mouths off at you just pull out your best sudo intelligent insult that would leave anyone confused as to the meaning all day.
I agree - go with option c. When good friends get into a disagreement, all-out fist fight is a good option. But if you don't really care about his friendship, then just ignore the situation and forget all about it. Or you could get with that girl again and send him a photo.
go for C and then A when no one is looking and then blame it on a piece of falling structure But seriously, you have chosen C and thats the best way for it.
Hey wow - guys can be bitchy too. Interesting how he's still hung up on this 2 years later, I mean.. honestly. I'm with the others - option C seems like a fantastic idea. But if he gets all thingy about it go with option B and target his masculinity, it seems like a fairly obvious weakness.
Just ignore it. He'll realise he's being a **** one day, and if you try and tell him before then it won't make any difference to the way he acts. Karma comes and slaps people in the face when they are least expecting it.
C tbh. I had the same thing happened, i pulled a girl a friend liked and he wouldnt talk to me, no big loss cus like your friend, he was a douche and a racist **** anyway. Just ignore the *******, he's not worth the time if hes getting upset over a girl he liked from ages ago. On a side note, im still with said girl...some year and a bit later....
I dunno, I was tired when I posted. Little fights make things worse, BIG fights usually bring people closer when it comes to good friends. Not necessarily fistfights, but yelling screaming, pushing, etc. I dunno. Little things make me forget about people, big things bring us closer together.
Ignoreh him, he's obviously a sad little bitch getting all emo just because you get more women than him.
C. Just because he wrote the script and cast you in his little drama, doesn't mean you have to play the part. And posting is like driving. Don't do it while drunk.
It's bloody childish if you ask me. And also an indication that he doesn't get laid much. Once you get *****, you forget about that which you've missed out on in the past. (Normally.)
The badass in me wants to say A, smack that guy!! C is by far the most grown up option. But personally i'd choose B, I was brought up that no one takes the piss outta you no matter what! It also seems like this guy likes abit of confrontation or at least understands it so pull him to the side, this beef is between you and him, and let him know he's acting like a bit of kid I mean this happened two years ago right? Thats plenty of time to get over it.
Won't work. A or B will just play into his little drama. He's a sulking child, so treat him as such: ignore him.
