Other What's ruining your life right now?

MrsYuu and I went on holiday before getting married, came back, got married at city hall, had a small party with family and friends at her parents', then went on holiday again.

 

We took all of the stress out of the wedding by... getting engaged and then never actually getting married.

 

Definitely caused us some serious issues subconciously I think, so eventually once we'd gone through some stuff we ended up eloping and it was great, definitely regret not having a big thing at times and hope we will sort something at some point but yeah, waaaaay less stressful that's for sure!

 

We did a big wedding, it was a good day but looking back I don't even know where the money came from, we couldn't raise that sort of cash now.

Regarding photos, I think you need a professional photographer for the big stuff, I've been to weddings where people have tried to rely on the guests but they're all too busy enjoying themselves to get what you want. With that said I would suggest keeping the photobooth idea as it's something people will interact with and you'll have all the images without them having to share them or whatnot.

 

A wedding without at least one argument is no wedding at all.

 

Yep got a professional coming for the big stuff

When my brother got married 15 years ago he put 35mm disposable cameras on the reception tables in hopes to capture the more fun candid stuff.

Not so good when most of the guests took them home with them...

 

I have been dealing with one Production incident for almost the entire day. I know nothing about this process, I can’t access the systems involved, I can’t access the code, and I can’t query the data. But I have to be involved and have it consume my entire day, meaning that I get nothing else done.

And why does this fall to me? Because today happened to be my turn on the “daily support checks” rota, and I’m a lot more diligent about it than the people who should have picked up this issue when it was their turn last week.

And why isn’t this stuff automated with pre-emptive checks and alerts? Because no one’s got around to putting all that together.

And why hasn’t anyone got around to automatic all this stuff? Because people keep prioritising “business value” over technical debt. So instead we waste incalculable amounts of engineering time putting out fires as the increasingly fragile house of cards we’re building on keeps crumbling around our ears.

Ultimately: this too, shall pass.

It might pass like a ****ing kidney stone, but it shall pass.

 

We had 2 weddings! One in England, one in Aus. Both pretty cheap and straightforward. Planned both ourselves. Remotely for the UK!

 

Are you sure this is in the correct thread?

 

Yes, through the miracle of Bit-Tech thread drift

 

If that counts as a miracle then I need to call the pope and tell him theres a new saint in town .

 

I’m on Isotretinoin which can cause major mood changes, generally I’m fantastic at managing my emotions and mainly my anger, had a really horrible dream last night and it left me absolutely furious, the sort of furious I thought was gone, until last night that was. Ended up hitting the gym at 3am.

"There is currently considerable controversy regarding a proposed causal relationship between the use of isotretinoin and depression and suicide", if Isotretinoin can bring emotions out of me I've held at bay for 17 years...

 

I mean, there were only 2 posts between the last wedding post and mine!

 

I was on it for perhaps a little over six months, no side effects but regarding the primary it works miracles. My sister took it as well and they made her sign a form saying she won't get pregnant, it doesn't do you any favours if you're a foetus.

 

Several digital banking apps are down. On PAYDAY!!!
https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cz9nnz2eqzdo

 

“Lloyds, Halifax and TSB banking apps down, thousands report”

So… that means Lloyds’ banking IT has shat the bed… again… because Lloyds owns Halifax. Lloyds doesn’t own TSB any more, but it does still provide the core back-end tech that allows TSB to… y’know… be a bank…

All this stuff is antiquated. The core systems were built in the 60s and 70s, and there’s decades upon decades of layers slapped on top of it. There are fewer and fewer people who know the languages & technologies needed to support & develop these systems. There are even fewer people who have worked on these systems for a long time - those people are retiring or quite literally dying off.

I’m amazed that modern banking even works, frankly.

 

^ This.
Great, so that's my online banking stuffed for the moment...

I don't think they're alone and done know if many of the big financial entities have done a 'proper' update to get round this. My wife works for a large building society, and the systems she works on are old, but not that old I don't think. I guess it's been cobbled for so long, the thought of doing it again from scratch must be frightening to say the least