Other What's ruining your life right now?

Oh come on, you have to approach them first!

Unless you've got enough money, but even then...soliciting.

 

This is what's been ruining my life lately. How to tell if a girl likes me? I know a number of girls that if I thought were interested in going out I would definitely ask. BUT... I have no clue how to tell!! Sure I can tell if they like me as a friend because they talk to me and such. Sure some of you may say "just go ask them" but that is not gonna happen. At least not right now. Maybe in the future when my self confidence is higher and I actually have some experience. Until then I really don't want to make a fool out of myself because that will just set me back further. I've already been putting extra effort in even when I feel uncomfortable.



So maybe ya's can give some USEFUL advice?




btw MV, change your user title to The Love Doctor.
or a mod could change it for you.

 

Girls will usually display very obvious signals that they're attracted to you, just look at their body language, and what they say. Also, if they tend to laugh at almost everything you say, or glance over at out for no real reason, you're in the bag.

And may I ask, how are you feeling uncomfortable? Or at least why. Also, main key, INITIATIVE, try approaching people you don't know regardless of how good looking they are, just get used to talking to strangers(ironic innit?) and then you'll ease up and get easy with the small talk.

 

WELL IT ISN'T OBVIOUS TO ME! lol

Seriously... I know I'm supposed to look for body language and things they say, etc... But I need examples! I'm so used to thinking no girls will ever be interested in me that I never get suspicious of what they are doing. So I need to know of specific things to look for.

 

Well look to see if they're constantly laughing at what you say regardless of whether or not it's funny. That shows interest.

Although I'm not very keen on this one, some say that if both her feet are pointed toward you crossed or one knee is pointed towards you, there's interest, of course I think it's a bit crock but it might be true.

Also if they constantly comment on you in a positive way, eg compliments or just bring you up to other people(in a good way obviously) then you have more points.

 

feet pointing towards me? wow... LOL i've read that somewhere but never thought it was actually true. But what about in a group setting?

 

In a group setting, I'd say if she's constantly looking at you, or engaging you in conversation(i.e you don't even have to speak and she approaches you) constantly, you've got points. Also, in a group setting if you're the topic of the conversation and as I've said before being mentioned in a good light, akin to being admired or complimented, then you have more points.

Yeah, while body language helps, speech is much more revealing, as is where the person's looking.

 

hmmm... I suppose I must be more aware of my surroundings then. I will see next weekend I guess.


Ok so I think that is helpful. I just have to pay attention. But the real tricky one is girls that I haven't ever had much of a conversation with (yeah, yeah, yeah, i know im rude...). If I were to start paying attention to them and try to talk to them, would there be any differences between a situation like that compared to a girl that I am friends with and talk to often?

Now I didn't mention this, but all these girls I know are quite friendly and outgoing for the most part and are great friends with other guys too. If that makes any difference... ?

 

I wouldn't say it makes a difference you just have to get them engaged and interesting. For people you don't know, start off small, something easily accesible like the world cup or something everyone does, then move on.

For those who talk often, well seeing as your friends, I don't think the interest has been established on their part.

 

What are you meaning by that?

And that's also what makes it real confusing for me. How am I to tell if a girl is just being friendly?


Like 1-2 months ago I never really talked to this one girl. But she talks to me often on FB, and it does seem to be more and more frequent. She is who invited me to see movie last week friday with a group of people and also had invited me to go with them to some fair/festival thingy this week (cant go because I work).

One thing I did just remember about last friday was that she did talk to me and all that, but there were times when she almost looked like she was nervous or something. At the time it's not something I really noticed, but now that you mentioned body language, I remembered that.

as well as some 'other' body related things

 

Well, if she's actively inviting you and such, then there's a high chance she is interested. Although it could also mean that she's just being friendly. You should take the initiative and invite her out to lunch someday or something of the sort. That'll give you a few answers.

 

I don't think I mentioned that I live 1h30m from all these people too....

and there's one or two other.........problems/reasons.....that make me realllllly not want to make a move unless I am quite sure on it.




Why do I get in these stupid situations?!?

 

man I really need to get into these things ...


... and no I don't mean vaginas, I mean "social situations"

 

either one would be fine though right?

 

***** MAGNET!!! She wants you to make her feel like a natural woman

Elton has given you lots of good info
About the feet and knees... I wouldn't read anything into that, it's more if they are giving you attention, such as getting close and facing you whenever you are around.

Not that we need to be able to read minds to know exactly what someone wants, just ask a question or two, in this case, maybe ask if she wants to go to the movies. It's not a marriage proposal, it's just two people going to see a fricken movie, or where ever you take her.

But unless a girl is desperate for you, it's very hard to tell for sure if she wants you... And from what i'm reading... She looks pretty damn keen!

What more does she have to do, before you finally invite her somewhere? She's invited you out twice already! Worst case scenario, you just end up seeing a movie with her, what more do you want ffs?

 

BLARG!!!

Maybe you should actually hop on chat.




So you're saying that if I asked a 16yo girl out to a movie and had to drive 1h30m to get there, it would be normal?



seriously guys.... WTF

 

It wouldn't be odd, that's for sure, I mean if you wanted to go you would've gone.

It doesn't have to be a movie anyhow.

 

im 20 and shes 16. that wouldn't seem strange to anyone?

 

Well noe one is really going to be that bothered by that. I might scratch my head, but 4 years isn't that big of a difference.

 

When that 4 years makes up a quarter of your entire life it does. Shes a kid, your an adult, stay away.