Other What's ruining your life right now?

Oh, have you not heard about that delayed-action semen that is doing the rounds?

(joke)

 

Only aware of the pump-action variety...

 

Tug-activated?

 

HMRC

 

Lovely choice of bad spelling!

 

I don't understand this part. Why would you see her being pregnant as revenge? how is bringing a child into the world (an innocent one at that) revenge for how she treated you?

 

I've just spent three days in Riyadh indiscriminately eating anything and everything, at restaurants where there's no menu, so I'm none the wiser as to what at least half of it was, and they just bring food until you ask them to stop (which is absolutely the correct way to run a restaurant).

That has done to my insides exactly what one would expect it to do.

Totally worth it.

 

One of my family members told me that everybody in my family thinks of me as a Sociopath. That's a nice end to the day.

 

You don't need to understand it though.

 

Unfortunately I do.

Remember, karma is infinite. It doesn't just apply to the people you hate.

 

Waynio, just seen your post. So sorry to hear your news, I was lost for words.
Your metalwork has been really inspirational to me, and your portable mATX design with the handle was just my kind of thing.
I've not been brave enough to play with copper, but was told when I joined that yours was the copper work to look at.
Keep strong, it's been a tough day here on BT.

 

My understanding would be a child from an affair would have not been planned, said affair may have been a impulsive one off or with someone they felt a connection with.

The revenge aspect of it from my point of view (assuming no kids already) is simply an extra person to care about besides themselves. Based on the sheer fact they had an affair not considering their current husband would probably make that pretty difficult, money would be tight and having to raise it single handed would probably make her reflect on the fact she could have quite possibly ****ed up. I personally believe you're either prepared for children or really not, i've had the scare and personally i'm simply not prepared for that right now. If it happened i'd rise to the challenge its just not really what i want right now.

I'm probably wrong though

 

Super shite news indeed, do make sure to keep on top of the pain management and don't feel bad about badgering them if you feel its not working.

 

Pretty much nailed it.


Didn't know I had to explain my feelings when I posted here, another thread I'll just avoid

 

Karma is just a poor construct to explain events and actions. Its common, informal use in western cultures is usually analogous to comeuppance and in that context has little to do with its original spiritual meaning or intents.

 

That's what I thought.

 

But if you actually think that through it's only really the child that suffers because if the person really was that selfish they wouldn't care. Even if they weren't then the kid would still suffer.

If you are feeling that way then I suggest you seek some help or counseling. That really isn't a good way to be feeling.

Westerners usually use it in place of "What goes around comes around". IE - if you treat somebody badly or do something bad then the same, or similar, will happen to you.

And I believe in that. Do bad things happen to people who don't deserve it? oh of course, but at least then you don't think of the bad things you have done.

I'm not saying Goldstar is a bad person. Far from it. However, if he believes in that then wishing a child as part of a revenge plot isn't a great way to set yourself up is it?

 

Karma at its core is nonsense. Claiming to observe it is the quintessential example of confirmation bias. Bad things happen to good people and vice versa.

What goes around comes around does not equal a "revenge plot". Your choice of silly emotive words doesn't make your misinterpretation of what he said carry weight. He didn't wish for the woman to have a child. He predicted a likely event and felt the associated hassle of raising a child (which I'm assuming was unplanned) is a sort of comeuppance for her behaviour. Really I'm done with this one. Goldstar doesn't need me analysing his situation in order to explain what a couple of simple sentences mean to someone who seems intent on misinterpreting them.

 

I suspect his point was that she didn't want a child, and now her "actions" have resulted in her getting pregnant. She will suffer - and that makes her estranged partner happy.

Seems pretty normal to me, I'm sure the child will be fine in the long run but you can't expect goldstar0011 to be concerned about that aspect whilst he's filled with burning hatred and bilious vitriol towards his ex

 

Why's the word revenge being used?
Revenge would be me going out my way to do something to her or affect her.

Karma, comeuppance, ignorance or just sheer bad luck caused her situation.
Personally I think it's deliberate as we had talked about having children a lot when we were getting along.

I sincerely hope she is happy and all goes well for her, we just didn't work out in the end, how she went about ending it was wrong in every aspect.
(without rehashing the whole story, I was in a wheel chair and very doped up on pain killers and was left alone and to some extent emotionally abused).

Please don't let this go out of control though.
I'm allowed to feel she deserves some sort of punishment or something like that for how she treated me, I'm human.