You're surprised that Nexxo's music career hasn't taken off yet? I, for one, think the question is a bit.....unframed. CK's friend has the cancer. But, we don't know what sort; or the kind of care he's getting. Very few, if I can take the anecdotal evidence at it's face value, terminal patients go off on an expensive binge of travel, drugs or sex. They usually spend their time and money fighting for that last chance. By the time it's progressed so far, that they really have no hope, they usually aren't ambulatory. I'd make my peace, but would fight to the end. That means no travel. No binges of sex, drugs or mayhem. and when the times comes, I want to be alone with my wife at home with the option of going with little pain. It's selfish, but I only hope that I go before she does. I think the other way around would be to painful to handle.
I accepted death years ago and I would choose it over suffering. If I can move, talk and travel then you'll find me attempting my obscene adventure. If i'm stuck in a bed, in pain with nothing to help me, please pull the plug. Since suicide is for cowards and sinners, the bullet to the head option is out.
i couldve sworn i posted in this thread already. You did. It just made no ripples in the pond. --Nexxo
Sorry to hear that your friend has cancer CK - its a b*gger to be sure - lost my grandmother to it last summer, and about to lose my cousin to it as well, and he's got a little girl who's too young to understand whats happening, so as a family we're trying to make him as comfortable as possible and work out the best way to explain it to his daughter The bit that really got me was that I never got to say goodbye to my grandmother. So now I regularly go to her grave, lay flowers and sit down and talk to her. It helps me make my peace if you will, And if I have something I need to get off my chest and I can't talk to people, then I talk to my grandmother. Sounds stupid but it really helps And I'm sorry to hear about your respective illnesses Kayin, John and Julian. I guess I must be #4. Although as far as I know my lifespan is not excessively reduced, there is a good chance I will not see my three score and ten. I have a condition which negates the thyroid gland in mah brain, I am on countless pills potions and injections to try and stimulate the thyroid and replace its functions. And because it is quite a rare condition, it isn't on the top of anyone's cure lists, unlike cancer aids, and HIV. But to answer CK's question, I would ensure that al my affairs were set in order, and if a woman was stupid enough to bear my offspring, I would ensure that I spend as much time with them as is humanly possible, so that there would only be good memories And if I really went downhill fast then I'd spend some time at the beach, listening to music, and may even do a spot of kiting if I felt well enough. Joe.
Mmm, an interesting question, once you've set aside the impluse answers in your own head and come down to it: I'd spend as much time as possible with my friends and family, nothing more nothing less. There's no experience I enjoy more than just being in good company, whatever amazing thing you're doing or seeing it's not the same unless you're with equally amazing people. As my friends live all over the country I don't get to see many of them half as mcuh as i would like to. Perhaps if your friend has other distance friends CK, help him get to see them and spend time with them? RwD
Would most likely kill everyone that had pissed me off + rob as many places as possible. Might as well go out GTA style!
Sorry to hear that. There are, I suspect, many people here with a foreshortened future. I have my own genetic glitch possibly cramping my lifespan, although nothing as severe as some other members have mentioned. But knowing the cancer statistics, many, many more on this forum will have cause to ask themselves the bucket list question. I certainly do. Not because I am expecting Death to pay a personal visit (although we are on nodding acquaintance terms, and occasionally pass each other in the hospital corridors) but because in my job I regularly meet people who are faced with that question. It is part of my job to help them find an answer. So far, my own answer is: I don't know. I honestly don't. I'd make sure that my wife is financially secure, and we've had the "Don't be a widow" talk. Beyond that, I do not yet know.
One of the problems I have is facing my Dr. monthly or whenever. You can see in her eyes that she wants to help but nothing can be done except regulate pain and treat symptoms of other afflictions as they arise. I've had her as my primary for almost 20 years. Drs can only do so much for the physical side. The emotional and psychological side is up to the patient and how they choose to fight and live. A diagnosis of a terminal illness is not a thing to pack away inside and run your life. Friends - like CK - family, coworkers can all help. john
I'm #5 with MS. Probably won't shorten my life though - I have much luck to have the least aggressive form, besides that I'm in good physical shape and take my weekly injections of Avonex. Still, it made me think a lot and learn to appreciate life, even the hard parts. Plus, it gave me determination to work a lot and get financially independent soon as interferone is quite pricey (when I started to need it, it costed monthly six times more than my mother earned in a month and was not refunded in any way. I was fifteen at the time.)
Good for you! Do what you can with the quality of life available to you. Staying alive IS expensive. I have 3 inhalers I use and one of them is $165USD for 30 days worth. john
I would write lots of letters for my family and friends, and date them so one is opened each year. I would write all the usual stuff such as "hope things are well", referance to their hopes/dream, but I would have a bit of fun writting some from a "in Heaven" perspective etc, or give my years prdiction ("this year will have hover cars...i'm sure of it" etc), it could be an anual thing to send around this years message from beyond the grav etc. And as it's only one letter a year, writting 30 odd or so wouldn't be to much of a chore (figure it would get borring after 30 years or so).
@MrMario - that does sound quite an awesome idea, although knowing my parents, they'd not bother, they'd just concentrate on goody two-shoes little brother mine. and because i don't have a partner or any spawn, i would just be another man in a 6x6 hole. It wouldn't suprise me if your good lady thinks the same way. I may be wrong, but I think that most people think along those lines. I know I do, and I don't even have a lady, let alone a good one!!
I feel for you - the American healthcare system seems so behind the rest of the world, such a shame. That's the lucky thing about me being in the UK - my drugs which would top thousands a year in the US, only cost me 150 a year merely for admin costs of writing a script, and they add substansial time to my life.
