No... i really dont... but i gotta vent. This is like the third time this has happened, i dunno, i swear there must be something wrong with me. A girl (someone who is a friend, mind you) gets close to me, we get all touchy-feely, hell, we even make out a couple times and i cant help but fall for her... I ask her out, and she says, Id rather just be friends.... arg!!!!!!!! Dont get me wrong, its not that i dont mind the fling, but these are girls I know and am good friends with, so its different than meeting a girl at a party and hooking up or something.... Besides, its over a long period of time, like a month or so, so its hard to not get attached... bah...
perhaps you were moving to slowly? so long as you haven't burnt any bridges, whats the diff' ? you both had fun while it lasted, didn't you...?
yep that sucks. looks like youre a dick behind glass... break in case of emergency. its alright if you can detatch yourself from emotions (seemingly like girls do) then you can just have fun, if not, its a bit of a head f00k
So ya into guys?? big boy??? well good luck with the girl thing... and anyways, if she makes out with you, and only wants to be a friend, is sub her a slore bag, or someone who doesnt mind taking a walk round the block.. A FEW TIMES
OK, the psychologist is In... First off, bummer, dude, I sympathise. But rest assured there is nothing wrong with you. What may be happening here is fear of intimacy. Getting closer with someone is intense, and can be both exciting and scary at the same time. So you get into this sort of approach-avoidance dance with each other. Some people maintain the status quo indefinitely with a "safe relationship", which is close enough to have your emotional (or sometimes, just sexual) needs met, but you know it's not going to go any further than that. This may be the nature of the friendships you describe with these girls... there is some good companionship, some flirting... but when it gets to the next stage (e.g. asking her out), it moves the goalposts and they get scared and need to distance regulate. What can I say? Such is life sometimes. But hang in there. It's all a matter of timing and one day soon you meet the right girl at the right time. Promise.
I hear you man, chicks are confusing at best, kind of like a Mac But if you have feelings for her I think you should ask her to decide what she wants to be with you, otherwise your going to get ripped apart inside by conflicting messages. One of my last things was just like this, and trust me your going to burn if you dont settle it to just being only friends (no making out or otherwise, treat her like one of the guys) or deciding to take it somewhere. Being in relationship limbo sucks. IF you both dindt really have feelings for eachother but liked the physical part, friends with benefits can be cool. But it sounds like your into this girl so it will be hard on you since she doenst want to go anywhere else it seems like. looks like your a dick behind glass... break in case of emergency. lol thats the coolest thing ive ever heard
could we just have a "vent" thread in bit-tech, these threads come up far too often. Or an emotion forum. We may be geeks, but god. Were also men! say to her "wtf!!!!!!!11!!111oneone, your all like this, and now your all like this!", and shell be like "oh im sorry", and youll be like "fo shizzle", and shell be upset your mad at her and everyone will all eventually feel better.
mate it's just women, she prop doing it to keep u on her tail... Like that saying goes you can't life with them, but u can't life without em
