So I've never used any online dating before using tinder on like Wednesday. I'm not relying on it it's just a lot of people at uni go home for the summer and I'm going to be doing a lot of hours at work so it is, like people have said, good for networking and expanding your horizon.
If you can't be a normal, nice person, in a normal, nice discussion, don't comment, end of story. Aside from that, I've used Tinder a bunch of times, with varying degrees of success. Its about as good as other internet dating services. A lot of girls won't say much, and whoever said you have to make an impact is right. They get hundreds of boys a day sending them 'hey there, you are hot' messages every day. I usually open with "Hey xxxxx, I see we've been matched on Tinder - where shall I book for the wedding?"...... and then give them two options - both being really dire. Its cheeky, fun and gives them an easy way into the conversation. If you are in London, then probably don't use that line though - they might have already heard it from me!
Sorry is that the best you can do? Though I suspect it is no better or worse than my chat up lines of many years ago.
The way I see it, looking for a date or partner on an online dating agency is no different to looking for a job using an online recruitment agency. Sure, in the old days things were different but if things didn't change, we'd still be eating beef dripping. I don't think there's anything wrong with it, it sounds like a laugh and expanding your choices can't be a bad thing.
That is exactly it - it isn't like people aren't connecting in person and doing it all behind their computers as some people seem to be insinuating, it's just a way of casting the net that little bit further. It's a fickle world though which has a completely different dynamic to the conventional way and also attracts a certain type of crowd (including the validation posse as Nexxo said). Same as anything else - if what you are doing doesn't yield results you need to change it up. Just think of something highly amusing, cheeky and slightly forward and while the iron is hot try and arrange something. That all being said I have far more success in person so I'm not exactly someone to advise.
Too bloody right. I met my Ms. on okcupid and we have left our profiles up (doing the ol' ethical non-monogamy hippy thing) and sometimes we look at what's going on with each other's profiles... Mine: 17 likes, 4 views per week! Hers: 1154 likes, 30+ views per day. Her profile doesn't even have pictures of her boobs. It's... well...
Hmmm maybe they're picking up on the fact you're just wanting to get some 'action' ? Or maybe... rather than trying to be intelligent or the other you should just be yourself ?
Well since I started this thread I got a few more matches one is very chatty a interested in some fun! We'll see how badly it goes I'm quite interested in the use of the term 'fun', it's quite ambiguous. I happy whatever it means.
My real life friend just wrote a book about the weird and wonderful world of tinder: http://www.amazon.co.uk/Confessions-Tinderella-Rosy-Edwards/dp/1780893876 It's an entertaining read!
